Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all,
I'd like to hear the stories of how people met:
Thanks in advance.
H.
Did they become your special interest? I don't know what that means.
What I mean by that is like with a special interest you put everything into. Did he become a human that you put everything into? My ex husband became my special interest which drove him away from me because the harder I tried, the more he distanced himself which let me to leave as the rejection was too much.
I am delighted that you shared these points as it gives me hope that this type of partnership does and can exist because my experience of men has been "Most lads I knew were into drinking, sleeping around, treating girls like shlt, generally being selfish."
He sounds like what I want and need in a partner but at 45 have not yet found as I don't drink/go to the usual places to socialise and am a single parent so these things make it harder to meet a similar person. There's no answer as places aren't taking on volunteers at the moment because of covid so I'll just have to be patient.....
No because someone needs to be at home with our daughter. Although she's growing up now. But I have so many health problems and anxiety, I don't go out anymore.
What we need is a house with a sociable layout. Hopefully when we move, we can find one...Current house is too small and poky.
No, he didn't become my special interest
That's good that you learned this was not the best way to go as I have too.
He has his own fun life with lots of support, and I'm just invisible. Hey ho.
As you said in your previous post though, "He is down to earth, funny, sexy, he is my rock." This surely means he's committed and loves you?
Could you also be part of "his fun life" or would that be too draining for you?
I am very lucky, I was always the ugly, unwanted girl at school who had no boyfriends and no luck. I don't know how I managed to meet a great man, he was only my 2nd boyfriend.
No, he didn't become my special interest. After having a horrific relationship before I met him, I learned not to throw myself into someone's life 100% because I lost myself. I made sure I had my own life separate to him.
However...for the last 16 years I've been stay at home mum with no friends, and lost myself completely, so that was a bit of a mistake wasn't it. He has his own fun life with lots of support, and I'm just invisible. Hey ho.