My son has extremely complex needs (including autism), and I have type 1 autism too. I have to deal with our local council on a regular basis to keep up with all of the paperwork and sorting out their problems. I generally run my email drafts by my husband before sending them. He’s very good at being diplomatic, and sadly it’s a skill I can’t seem to grasp.
The latest problem with the council is over a technical issue they’re having which resulted in my child not being able to attend school. After telling them in a lot more words that technical issues are no excuse for not being able to accommodate staff absence, I ended the email like this (hubby was at work).
”I apologise for my forthright tone, but I have already had four years of the council shirking their legal responsibilities towards my son at every given opportunity. Corporate excuses tend to fall on deaf ears now. And yes, I have fully accepted that I will be completely insane by the time my children leave education.”
Whilst I understand that this isn’t exactly diplomatic, I also couldn’t see any other way of getting my point across. My husband had suggested a few ideas before he went to work, but I thought they all skirted around the problem rather than dealing with it. I feel like I’m missing something here. Does anyone have a few ground rules for me for being more diplomatic when dealing with extremely frustrating situations?