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Starting hobbies and not finishing

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  • Before I start, i think that I may have Hugh functioning autism but have never been diagnosed.

I have some hobbies that I still do or have done for a number of years when I was able to get to a class, but I seem to start some new things, do them for a while and then just cannot seem to put in anymore effort. Like I am interested in Japan and Japanese novels, films and series depending on the genre, so I started learning Japanese and thoroughly learnt most of the katakana symbols (got really into it) but then stopped. I learnt italic calligraphy but really needed to do a lot of work to get better, but I haven't bothered to carry on. I also started learning modern calligraphy, but only learnt a few lower case letters then gave up. I also started (paid for) an online yoga teacher training course and worked through a portion of it before not bothering anymore.

I don't like the fact that I have started these things and not bothered anymore, but I don't have the will power or motivation to pick them up again.

I wonder why this is?

Is anyone else like this?

  • Yeah I can get like that too. So I write down my intention for learning something that's interesting to me, and then when my interest starts to wane, I look back on why I wanted to learn it in the first place, and what I wanted to do with it once I finished learning.

    I know that practice is not going to be great all the time, because it can be like fighting against yourself, especially if you want to do something else, so I try to concentrate on that one task, and I break it down into smaller pieces, so that I'm more likely to finish. 

  • Same and it annoys me because if I kept up with all the things I started, I could have been pretty good at them. I wish I could fixiate on things for more than a month because I'm really impulsive tSweat smile and will put my all into something and legit lose interest within a month and I'm talking like changing degrees or spending a lot of money on a new hobby and it's kinda ruining meSweat smile

  • It's all about the flow. At first you will not have any success or you know the 'Extraordinary Results' you keep thinking that way and you will struggle to even stay interested in for long. Do one thing when you pick up a hobby next time, set goals and try to stick with them. Download material for that hobby or skill for example download video tutorials on coding if you are into it. Watch other people do awesome *** within that same hobby and be motivated. Keep experimenting with what you learn from time to time. And above all know that it's the amount of hours that counts how good you are at something.

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  • in reply to RB

    Well in the case of learning Japanese it was an all or nothing situation, but with the other things I could have given my all to it but didn't, I had the time.

  • I'm like this, when I was growing up I used to collect top trumps and still have a large collection. I stopped playing when I had no-one else that was interested but made up a way for me to play it by myself, hope to revive this at some point. Last year I got really into playstation platinum trophies, 2019 it was DC comics etc. For the last few years my interests have heavily been focused on Air Crash Investigations, I'm not an aviation expert but I'm just interested in the origins and findings of incidents, particularly MH370 probable causes. Things that I do that help distract me are learning all countries of the world off by heart in their location but also their flags and also doing word searches. This year I also got back into reading DC comics and watching the TV shows. My hobbies would be considered more than a hobby when I'm invested but not so much that it lasts more than a year but there are some which do or come back from previous years, if that makes sense.

  • Hi! Thanks for sharing. I don't have a diagnosis either, but have self diagnosed as autistic. I often start things and don't finish them too. I feel like I have to do something absolutely 100%, or not at all. And as soon as I can't commit to the 100%, or I loose interest even just a little bit, I stop doing it altogether. 

    Do you feel like it's the 'all or nothing' scenario, or something else?