There is no future in loving an old man

I love a woman who is 26 years old; I am 61 years old.

I would give all I have to quench this fire that burns within my ***--- to douse the flame, even if I must sink into a sea of loneliness; to rip out whatever part of me that first kindled this hopeless and foolish conflagration; to end the gasps of pain with each grieving breath I take; to smother this unwelcome blaze that no torrent can reach.

My love of her grasped me like a mugger who took everything I had, leaving me naked and unsheltered in this wasteland of despair. This scorching love has left dust in my mouth, as my love for her must remain unspoken. This desire happened to me undesired, like a bolt of lightning setting my house on fire. The searing agony of being too old sends waves of pain down my arms and to my finger tips. I am the victim of Cupid, as most old fools are.

I long for the furnace of her kisses--- willing to be branded, claimed and marked. I ache to float upon the wind of her perfect voice, and never again feel the ground under my feet.

Oh, to be young! I would be in Stockholm now, begging her to share with me the light in her eyes, and to see requited love burn within her. For such a priceless gift I would risk everything and anything, even if she were to tell me "No."

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  • Hello, David. There is no future. Period. Only the one we create in our mind. And it's rarely a happy one. Have you ever come across the acceptable age calculation? Allegedly, by dividing one's own age in half, and then adding 7 to that number, one wind's up with the acceptable minimum age for the subject of one's romantic attention.  

  • Have you ever come across the acceptable age calculation? Allegedly, by dividing one's own age in half, and then adding 7 to that number, one wind's up with the acceptable minimum age for the subject of one's romantic attention.  

    Yes - that comes from the Islamic faith.

    It's very sensible - the logic is that it takes a few extra years for a man have his life on track, earning good money, house, lifestyle etc. but the wife will be in her prime to add to the partnership - so will be significantly younger.

    30-year old man = 22 year old wife

    50 year old man, 32 year old wife.

  • es - that comes from the Islamic faith.

    It's very sensible - the logic is that it takes a few extra years for a man have his life on track, earning good money, house, lifestyle etc. but the wife will be in her prime to add to the partnership - so will be significantly younger.

    30-year old man = 22 year old wife

    50 year old man, 32 year old wife.

    That age difference sounds evil to me (religion, such as Islam, makes people evil). Women are not property; women are not commodities that are bought and sold via algorithms;  women  must marry / live with people their own age, as doing so evens power and makes the relationship more equal.

    Having a fifty-year-old man marry a thirty-two-year-old woman is evil, as it shackles a young woman to an old man. It is *NOT* "very sensible:" it is a crime against the woman.

  • Different countries have different laws about people living together and their children's rights after them splitting up.   

    There's an interesting / scary new trend in the US - if a random bloke happens to just look after a woman's kids for an hour to help out - without payment for services - he can then be sued as if he was the father for child support payments until the kids turn 18 - crazy, huh?

    It's claimed he assumed full parental responsibility as an unpaid sitter.

  • Golly, I have no idea at all why some people get married. My woman friend in Stockholm noted that people there have children and they are not married-- and parents are legally bonded to their children.

    The data I have found only relates to USA citizens, as I do not know any other language than English.

    www.pewresearch.org/.../

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  • Different countries have different laws about people living together and their children's rights after them splitting up.   

    There's an interesting / scary new trend in the US - if a random bloke happens to just look after a woman's kids for an hour to help out - without payment for services - he can then be sued as if he was the father for child support payments until the kids turn 18 - crazy, huh?

    It's claimed he assumed full parental responsibility as an unpaid sitter.