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NAS73375

Hello everyone,  I have just joined as I need some guidance and to be honest this is scary.  I have not been diagnosed although recent reading and on line indicators suggest I am on the Autistic spectrum somewhere.  I am struggling at present and need to find a way forward.  My mind has always been my strength and during my career have enjoyed taking on problems that others have shied away form as not possible.  However a couple of months ago I was promoted to Director in the Charity I work with and now my work is at least 50% meetings plus dealing with people (I look after finance, systems, HR, governance and H & S).  I have realised I no longer have my bolt hole of spread sheets, financial modelling or analysis to hide in while I recharge my batteries. Many years ago I had the opportunity to partake in Myers Briggs test which taught me that whilst I was introverted I could summon up the energy to do more extrovert things, for a short while.  Now I need batteries to be full all the time. Yes I am now declining in mental health and worry I cannot do my job or will have a meltdown.

There are other things in life which challenge me socially but work is the big one at present.  I hope to retire in about a year's time.  Is there a director on this forum who appreciates what I am saying here and can perhaps give me some tips / ideas to help me manage myself.

Thank you and apologies if I have wasted anyone's time.

G

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  • Just to agree with Loz the increased calmness and reduced anxiety achieved using meditations is pretty useful for all situations

    there are different types ( sitting, lying, walking, "By doing" )

    Guided meditations are the way i started.

    it took 2 years before i seen personality/ behavioural changes. But everyone is different.

  • in reply to aidie

    Meditation and navel gazing is all well and good - but unfortunately, most people have to perform in the real world and deliver targets under such stress that there isn't space for it.   

    It's something that can be looked at once the work/life balance is addressed to create the time to look at oneself

  • in reply to Plastic

    My therapist sends me links to guided meditation on YouTube, and we've meditated together. She's teaching me mindfulness to help me let go of stress that has happened and to not stress over what may happen.

  • in reply to aidie

    You clearly have a problem with my post - or can you not add anything except hastily edited posts?

    Do you think it's ok to mess with people without proper qualifications?

  • in reply to aidie
    Plastic said:
    It's always a worry when unqualified people go meddling in other people's mental health.    This is why fully trained and qualified professionals must have indemnity insurance
  • in reply to aidie
    aidie said:
    My top manager  ( just below CEO) is now teaching and taking her own meditation sessions in my work, with the approval of the CEO,, HR and backed by the unions !  I hope to be working with her in delivering these and other types of meditation once Covid is over.

    It's always a worry when unqualified people go meddling in other people's mental health.    This is why fully trained and qualified professionals must have indemnity insurance.

  • in reply to Plastic

    Agreed Plastic, meditation is going to be limited without making some changes to the work load. But it's also helpful to be aware of various ways that people have found to incorporate different techniques into their workload. That way, if an opportunity presents itself, a person is in a position to take advantage of it. 

    The worst thing is to finally get a moment, and not know that you can do something helpful with it. I've been through it and I could kick myself with the amount of missed opportunities that I've had which could have made such a difference to my health. Both physical and mental.

  • in reply to Loz

     and 

    thanks for your support, and very constructive contributions,  all 3 of us and more in this forum have all benefited from meditation.   

    My top manager  ( just below CEO) is now teaching ( qualified teacher )  and taking her own meditation sessions in my work, with the approval of the CEO,, HR and backed by the unions !  I hope to be working with her in delivering these and other types of meditation once Covid is over.

    Mindfulness Meditation is effective against anxiety and depression  in 60-70% of adults with autism.

    Mediation has been shown ,  and  I have have seen this many times, to be very practical for top executives and managers as well as the other workers as well.

  • in reply to Loz

    But that's the problem the O.P. has - no spare minutes and not enough recuperation time - it's the edge of the death-spiral - the even-horizon if you will.

    The O,P. needs to shed some of the immediate responsibilities to make the space for down-time to start to self-repair..      I've seen it lots of times.

  • in reply to Plastic

    I realise it doesn't sound practical, Plastic. I think many people don't realise you can take a few seconds or a few minutes and still get some benefit. I rarely sit down to meditate for more than a few minutes at a time. But those times that I do, I feel better. I think it's more about stealing a quiet moment for yourself than trying to find the answer to the 'ultimate question of life, the universe, and everything'.

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  • in reply to Plastic

    I realise it doesn't sound practical, Plastic. I think many people don't realise you can take a few seconds or a few minutes and still get some benefit. I rarely sit down to meditate for more than a few minutes at a time. But those times that I do, I feel better. I think it's more about stealing a quiet moment for yourself than trying to find the answer to the 'ultimate question of life, the universe, and everything'.

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  • in reply to aidie

    You clearly have a problem with my post - or can you not add anything except hastily edited posts?

    Do you think it's ok to mess with people without proper qualifications?

  • in reply to aidie
    Plastic said:
    It's always a worry when unqualified people go meddling in other people's mental health.    This is why fully trained and qualified professionals must have indemnity insurance
  • in reply to aidie
    aidie said:
    My top manager  ( just below CEO) is now teaching and taking her own meditation sessions in my work, with the approval of the CEO,, HR and backed by the unions !  I hope to be working with her in delivering these and other types of meditation once Covid is over.

    It's always a worry when unqualified people go meddling in other people's mental health.    This is why fully trained and qualified professionals must have indemnity insurance.

  • in reply to Plastic

    Agreed Plastic, meditation is going to be limited without making some changes to the work load. But it's also helpful to be aware of various ways that people have found to incorporate different techniques into their workload. That way, if an opportunity presents itself, a person is in a position to take advantage of it. 

    The worst thing is to finally get a moment, and not know that you can do something helpful with it. I've been through it and I could kick myself with the amount of missed opportunities that I've had which could have made such a difference to my health. Both physical and mental.

  • in reply to Loz

     and 

    thanks for your support, and very constructive contributions,  all 3 of us and more in this forum have all benefited from meditation.   

    My top manager  ( just below CEO) is now teaching ( qualified teacher )  and taking her own meditation sessions in my work, with the approval of the CEO,, HR and backed by the unions !  I hope to be working with her in delivering these and other types of meditation once Covid is over.

    Mindfulness Meditation is effective against anxiety and depression  in 60-70% of adults with autism.

    Mediation has been shown ,  and  I have have seen this many times, to be very practical for top executives and managers as well as the other workers as well.

  • in reply to Loz

    But that's the problem the O.P. has - no spare minutes and not enough recuperation time - it's the edge of the death-spiral - the even-horizon if you will.

    The O,P. needs to shed some of the immediate responsibilities to make the space for down-time to start to self-repair..      I've seen it lots of times.