Published on 12, July, 2020
Of course, I am missing the point somewhere but that seems to be the nature of things...
I'm 41, there are two weeks until first phase of assessment and i am yo-yo ing between 'I can't wait' and 'holy hell, if I am wrong about this my whole new worldview is a massive poisoned lie'
It seems like even the most well intentioned people in my life, including most trusted family and friends (some of whom tell me they are Autistic) and even non-specialist therapist, are either accidentally - or on purpose for sure in a few cases - knocking me of my comfortable little perch into an abyss that I alone have to walk my way out of.
I really feel that this is totally unnecessary but... as others have mentioned ... I need the bit of paper that says 'ASD/Autism/ND' on it so I can stop holding my breath and deal with whatever consequences might come of that. Probably not a lot will happen but just in case, everyone seems to be telling me that I might be wrong and that's kicking me right down to ground zero...
There is an 'onsite' element to the assessment and supposedly I ought to be bringing some support:
my parents are about 80 - it's unfair to ask them - possible/probable got their own issues . My sister has a full on family life and job - it's unfair to ask her. Psychotherapist says "bring your dog with you for support" - excitable (6 stone athletic) dog requires additional strand of my focus to keep him calm in new situations, let alone me. I say: what the hell can be so staggering that it muted with some Valium and a bit of time - or half a dozen coffees as the case may be...
I am so convinced that all I need to do is turn up and be as authentic as possible for 2 minutes with all the hand flapping externalisations and non-vocal brain farts that i tried sooo hard not to show to anybody, ever - even on my own at home - for so long; and they'll pat me on the head and say well done and I can go home now thanks.
And either it is - or it isn't - or it's something fuzzy in between but whatever I imagine it to be, it definitely is not....
And I'm going to the forest to tell that to some trees, in private tomorrow morning.
Sorry to bother y'all.
I got my insight after taking an online aspergers test, then soon after official diagnosis when I was 59.
Guess what? It changes nothing unless you let it. (getting a bit zen here I know., but stick with me :~)
OT1H (On the one hand) it means that some things will NEVER GET ANY BETTER FOR ME! (But at least I know now...)
OTOH The knowledge will allow me to avoid certain failure modes from now on, and I found out who my "tribe" is at last.
At least I have a condition which features some very positive traits as well as some issues. Hell, it could be so much worse, I could have turned out to be a normie!!
I so love what you typed
"OTOH The knowledge will allow me to avoid certain failure modes from now on, and I found out who my "tribe" is at last.
At least I have a condition which features some very positive traits as well as some issues. Hell, it could be so much worse, I could have turned out to be a normie!!"
- its so very true, I'm going to remember what you've said !!!! I said to my daughter a few years back "I like that I'm a bit odd ...I'd hate to be normal....I wont ever be normal will I ???!!!!" She just said "Oh Mum, being normal is something you will never have to worry about" !!! I sometimes feel my offspring parent me these days !!!
Glad I'm not the only one that happens to !!!
Yeah, that seems to happen. My daughter talks to me like I'm a half-wit mostly, and points out my peculiarities with glee. I just remind her that she carries my genes... But the banter stops real quick if either of us realises that the other one actually NEEDS the other, so it's all good.