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for all people suffering ,,,,,stop blaming others,,,,,,, zen

aidie

We humans can spend our life blaming other people , circumstances, or our bad luck and thinking about the way life should have been.

We can die that way if we want. That's our privilege, but it's not much fun.

We have to open up to the enormous game going on ( Life ),  that we're part of with all other humans, and species.

Until we see through the game that doesn't work ( blaming others ), we don't play the real game ( experience your life directly ).

Some people never see though it and die without ever having lived.

That's too bad.

  • yes, in reply to all,  this is indeed very difficult.

    These are not my words BTW but those of Charlotte Joto Beck. I just moved the sentences around a bit.

  • I agree, but easier sad that done.

    Like my school report, “could do better”!

  •  I totally agree.

    This week, I had a bit of a revelation which came out of the blue. It's made me feel lighter and like a weight has been lifted. The revelation was to "forgive the situation". Nothing is ideal, but in forgiving something which has happened through circumstance rather than blaming (myself or others) this makes it easier to let go of negative thoughts. Life happens! Stuff happens! This sounds really straightforward when I write it out, but now I understand and believe this. (When people say " let it go" I understand this so much more now). I have nothing to compare my past to, because it's the only thing which I've known as I haven't lived any other lives. So from thinking "my life could've been better if I had made different decisions" equally, it could've been much worse. I have nothing to compare it to so why try? I feel this is really being much kinder to myself. It's quite liberating.

  • Blame is a tough one, I find. It's a very human thing to seek out blame.

    I think people with good emotional intelligence are able to apportion a bit of blame but also measure that with self-awareness and are able to apportion some of the blame, in a constructive fashion, to themselves (and their 'own kind' if you will) as well.

    I've noticed that if blame is done with understanding and learning in mind, then blame can be a positive thing. I see it as a fine line though and I know I've over-crossed my own lines on this countless times.

  • It's fun blaming others.  And I've known a lot of irrational people who spent years blaming me.