for all people suffering ,,,,,stop blaming others,,,,,,, zen

We humans can spend our life blaming other people , circumstances, or our bad luck and thinking about the way life should have been.

We can die that way if we want. That's our privilege, but it's not much fun.

We have to open up to the enormous game going on ( Life ),  that we're part of with all other humans, and species.

Until we see through the game that doesn't work ( blaming others ), we don't play the real game ( experience your life directly ).

Some people never see though it and die without ever having lived.

That's too bad.

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  • Difficult one, that. I didn't know I was Autistic until last year. Now that I do, and can put a lifetime of abuse and bullying into perspective, I DO blame others for a lot of it! I certainly didn't beat thr crap out myself as a child. I certainly didn't slyly enjoy it, it was imposed on me against my will and despite me doing my utmost to be "good" and compliant, so hell yes I DO blame others for some of my experience.

    We live in a dog eat dog culture, where if we do not hold others accountable for their actions, we will get endless *** simply for being ND, (even when they know you can't help it, it seems) and I didn't create that culture, so yes it is someone else fault for not including us in their planning.

    But, hell yes, as a group we do need to take responsibility for ourselves, man up, and find workarounds for our limitations and find ways to make their system work for US for a change.

    The OP is right that simply blaming others is no solution. We need to take our righteous anger and use the energy to make change.