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for all people suffering ,,,,,stop blaming others,,,,,,, zen

aidie

We humans can spend our life blaming other people , circumstances, or our bad luck and thinking about the way life should have been.

We can die that way if we want. That's our privilege, but it's not much fun.

We have to open up to the enormous game going on ( Life ),  that we're part of with all other humans, and species.

Until we see through the game that doesn't work ( blaming others ), we don't play the real game ( experience your life directly ).

Some people never see though it and die without ever having lived.

That's too bad.

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  • Blame is a tough one, I find. It's a very human thing to seek out blame.

    I think people with good emotional intelligence are able to apportion a bit of blame but also measure that with self-awareness and are able to apportion some of the blame, in a constructive fashion, to themselves (and their 'own kind' if you will) as well.

    I've noticed that if blame is done with understanding and learning in mind, then blame can be a positive thing. I see it as a fine line though and I know I've over-crossed my own lines on this countless times.

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  • Blame is a tough one, I find. It's a very human thing to seek out blame.

    I think people with good emotional intelligence are able to apportion a bit of blame but also measure that with self-awareness and are able to apportion some of the blame, in a constructive fashion, to themselves (and their 'own kind' if you will) as well.

    I've noticed that if blame is done with understanding and learning in mind, then blame can be a positive thing. I see it as a fine line though and I know I've over-crossed my own lines on this countless times.

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