Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi, I'm just wondering has anyone ever thought they have done both of these at any time in their lives ?
I often read on here that it is usually females that internalise whereas males mostly mask. Is this correct ?
Looking back, I feel I have done both. I am male. I know there are males here who have said they internalise
and others I suspect have had the same experience. Perhaps far more than care to admit due to the stereo-typing
that it's only likely to be females who internalise ? In any case, isn't the outcome and diagnoses the same at the end of the day ?
I.e Exhaustion ?
What is your experience ?
What's internalising?
Basically keeping it all inside.
Internalising is more than just keeping it all inside imho - it's also getting really affected by nasty things people say to you, ruminating on them and letting them affect your self-esteem.
Thanks for the info! Yes that does make sense. I am trying to be tougher, I ruminate for years about things which went wrong in the past. I'm not so bad about personal insults, probably because of being trolled so much online. I just got bored of rude people and thought 'what do they know anyway? Insulting a stranger says more about them than it does about me.'
Yep it's true. I'm very sensitive to particular insults because they bring up all the previous times I've been hurt.
I hear you violetdr3amer. For some of us, the slightest association with a past event can trigger memories that can hit as hard as they did at the time.
I was abused, too.
I'm glad you're thicker-skinned!
I'm working on it. I was abused as a child and bullied throughout my entire life, and the build-up of so many people being nasty to me has really affected my self-esteem.
I was like that as a child. Now, I'm thicker-skinned.