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Introvert or extrovert?

Meeples

I have always considered myself an introvert. I find social situations draining and I have no problem with my own company, which fits the definition of an introvert. However, I'm not sure that I really am. I am also a natural performer, fascinated by other peoples lives and stories and, when it goes well, I get a real buzz from connecting with people. So, could I actually be an extrovert? Could these introvert traits be the results of social anxiety, masking really heavily and/or being overstimulated? Wouldn't those things also make me find socialising confusing and exhausting and find having time by myself easier?

Its just a thought that's been rolling around in my mind and I wondered what everyone else thought.

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  • I'd also like to add, we really do love putting people into neat little boxes don't we. I think again,that's the western world idea....to categorise in a scientific manner. Maybe in other parts of the world,  people are just seen for who they are.

    Although humans are sociable animals. ..this weighing up of other people might be a constant through the history of humans and wherever they live in the world. I don't know Sorry I'm rambling now but I do find it interesting.

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  • I'd also like to add, we really do love putting people into neat little boxes don't we. I think again,that's the western world idea....to categorise in a scientific manner. Maybe in other parts of the world,  people are just seen for who they are.

    Although humans are sociable animals. ..this weighing up of other people might be a constant through the history of humans and wherever they live in the world. I don't know Sorry I'm rambling now but I do find it interesting.

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  • in reply to Deleted User

    In a lot of cultures, any defects are hidden to not bring shame upon the family - you're never going to get true figures from them.      The difference in the West is there's often cash available for being special - and that's an incentive to declare anything for the money - and it attracts fraudsters too.    There's also the whole industry built around servicing those people - and it's union-driven so bigger numbers = more political power.

    My privately educated daughter was classed as underprivileged because we only have one TV and no i-pad and only one parent working.    It creates jobs-for-the-boys.

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    That's an interesting point. Didn't occur to me that this need to categorise people might only be a western rather than a global thing. 

    I have a really mixed thing about our need to categorise people. On one hand it irritates me that society needs everyone to be neatly labelled, and that people get nervous if the person then changes so that they no longer fit with their assigned label. On the other, I have spent years looking in to psychology and self help books to work out why I never seemed to fit in, why I couldn't think how everybody else seemed to, and find out if there was a label for me.