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Introvert or extrovert?

Meeples

I have always considered myself an introvert. I find social situations draining and I have no problem with my own company, which fits the definition of an introvert. However, I'm not sure that I really am. I am also a natural performer, fascinated by other peoples lives and stories and, when it goes well, I get a real buzz from connecting with people. So, could I actually be an extrovert? Could these introvert traits be the results of social anxiety, masking really heavily and/or being overstimulated? Wouldn't those things also make me find socialising confusing and exhausting and find having time by myself easier?

Its just a thought that's been rolling around in my mind and I wondered what everyone else thought.

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  • I'd also like to add, we really do love putting people into neat little boxes don't we. I think again,that's the western world idea....to categorise in a scientific manner. Maybe in other parts of the world,  people are just seen for who they are.

    Although humans are sociable animals. ..this weighing up of other people might be a constant through the history of humans and wherever they live in the world. I don't know Sorry I'm rambling now but I do find it interesting.

  • in reply to Deleted User

    In a lot of cultures, any defects are hidden to not bring shame upon the family - you're never going to get true figures from them.      The difference in the West is there's often cash available for being special - and that's an incentive to declare anything for the money - and it attracts fraudsters too.    There's also the whole industry built around servicing those people - and it's union-driven so bigger numbers = more political power.

    My privately educated daughter was classed as underprivileged because we only have one TV and no i-pad and only one parent working.    It creates jobs-for-the-boys.

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  • in reply to Deleted User

    In a lot of cultures, any defects are hidden to not bring shame upon the family - you're never going to get true figures from them.      The difference in the West is there's often cash available for being special - and that's an incentive to declare anything for the money - and it attracts fraudsters too.    There's also the whole industry built around servicing those people - and it's union-driven so bigger numbers = more political power.

    My privately educated daughter was classed as underprivileged because we only have one TV and no i-pad and only one parent working.    It creates jobs-for-the-boys.

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  • in reply to Deleted User

    Introverts are often seen as deficient or depressed - and vice versa - anything other than 'normal and social' is a problem

  • in reply to Plastic

    Yeah I agree with defects being hidden in some cultures, although being introverted isn't a defect (I'm sure you agree here!). I also feel there's a desire from some people to need a label to define who they are. Going back to being introverted in other cultures. ..I think what I'm trying to get at....some cultures place more emphasis on lived human experience rather than explaining through science. I feel it's possibly in these cultures,  being introverted isn't seen so much of a "difference" to the norm because they haven't categorised people in this way in the first place.