Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello, I'm new here and this is the first time I've ever reached out to other people.
I'm 31 and have been suffering with chronic depression for over 5 years, well...only those 5 years have been treated.
My entire life has been a struggle. From being forcibly removed from a Wendy House as a child, screaming because it was safe and I was left alone to getting fired from every job I get because I "don't fit in" or get on with other people there eg. I just don't talk to them or I don't have the same energy.
I've never had friends and in my adult life I count 1 and the rest are people online. The distance from them makes me feel safe.
I play a lot of online video games. Not loud, shooty types but one's like Final Fantasy 14 when I can just exist in a world for a while and gather some stuff to craft with for hours. I don't have to talk to anyone but I like seeing people there.
I'm also an artist but I never really finish any of my pieces ha.
So today I finally had a requested phone call from my GP and...i froze. I panicked and I said all the wrong things and I just couldn't express why I feel I may be autistic. I had the conversation all planned out on my head but when it came to it I just crumbled. I felt stupid and attention seeking...everything I said could be put down to depression or just...nothing. I'm so upset but I couldn't explain my life in 10 minutes.
The good news is, is that he told me to send him a written letter via post explaining why I wish to be tested etc. But I'm struggling. It's not that I don't have reasons and examples and family members to back me up, it's that I feel I'm once again just going to be washed over with the "you're just eccentric" or "it's the depression" brush.
I just...can't say what I want to and this phone call took years for me to make and I feel just so utterly stupid.
Is there anyone who could give me a few tips to help filter my thoughts to put them on paper for me to send to him? Anything that could help properly express the struggles I had growing up and in adult life? I feel like because I cant express them, I can't make anyone believe me and that is devastating...
Thank you for your time :)
Try writing all the things you consider to be traits or issues on bits of paper in your own words - just a single or a few words for each. Take your time on this and capture as many things as you can. Lay them out on a table and rank them - use your own method but essentially put the things that are either most prevalent or the ones that worry you most at the top and the ones that are less of an issue at the bottom. Whilst ranking things may seem silly - in a letter it’s let you get the right points across - keep in mind most people reading a letter pay more attention to the stuff at the top.
When you write the letter - treat it like an essay with a word count. Make every sentence matter - too much filler creates extra reading. So for example you may say: “I struggle with social communication and often fail to understand sarcasm or humour”. It’s to the point rather than being drawn out. Remember doctors are busy so lengthy letters will barely be scan read.
They’d be my tips - I’m probably no help, for which I apologise but I wanted to at least try.
Thank you for the reply!
My issue is that I feel like I don't sound real enough. Like I've just gone onto a symptoms website and have just written down what it says there. I think it's because I'm an adult and as child you re 'observable' whereas I am a very isolated and introverted person, I barely show my face to anyone. Trying to come across as genuine seems to be extremely hard even if one is in fact, being genuine!