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How do I encourage my partner to get things done?

NAS70747
over 3 years ago

I am NT and generally a very 'go getting' type, I know my partner procrastinates and I accept it however, sometimes things do need to be done.  Call the doctors or go food shopping it doesn't matter what but I don't know how to help him to get motivated.

Please help I am asking for actual ways or words as I don't want to upset him or send him into a meltdown.  I find myself getting really frustrated and I am trying meditation to help control that.

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  • over 3 years ago

    mediation seems good - except the mediator should take into account asd, afaik.... if they don't - maybe disaster would ensue.

    i no for me, i'm pretty good at doing certain things (cooking, washing dishes, shopping, balancing a checkbook (maybe)) but terrible at most everything else. so 'that special someone' would probably have to work with, for example ------ washing cars? once every year or two. ironing? no thanks. installing the garbage disposal? probably not. vacuuming the house? probably not too.

    i'm saying from my point of view, you may have to really work with your partner's strengths, and work carefully around the weaknesses.... 

     i'm sure your partner is more accomodating than me.

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  • over 3 years ago

    mediation seems good - except the mediator should take into account asd, afaik.... if they don't - maybe disaster would ensue.

    i no for me, i'm pretty good at doing certain things (cooking, washing dishes, shopping, balancing a checkbook (maybe)) but terrible at most everything else. so 'that special someone' would probably have to work with, for example ------ washing cars? once every year or two. ironing? no thanks. installing the garbage disposal? probably not. vacuuming the house? probably not too.

    i'm saying from my point of view, you may have to really work with your partner's strengths, and work carefully around the weaknesses.... 

     i'm sure your partner is more accomodating than me.

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