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Recent Diagnosis

Mark Inder

Hi. To the point, I've just turned 46 and just been diagnosed as be autistic. This has made me think a lot about everything but I'm having trouble making sense of it all. Not sure where to start to be honest. I was told that trying to talk to other adults might help. 

  • in reply to Plectrum

    Indeed, I too have been told be careful what I say as I can lack diplomacy.  I really don't understand it when people are sycophantic,, and it fact, it really bothers me to see it. 

  • in reply to Distincthowler

    Yes, exactly that. I too have managed to create a decent enough life and achieved some things to be proud of, but it was never easy at all.  I do wonder now just what I could have done had I been aware earlier and able to manage things better. 

  • in reply to Der Spiess

    Hello, your situation sounds pretty much like mine. Your observations are well put. 

  • I, like you have been diagnosed recently with ASD at the ripe old age of 50. I've spent my life as an outsider but have always held down a job, have a great wife and two children but the act of being told about the ASD it has made things in my life both past and present odd. I'm in a job that doesn't understand how I work and appear not to care. I've been in trouble for saying things that others instantly take offence at when I don't see why.  I'll say something that I mean either lightheartedly or as a throw away comment but it gets blown all out of proportion. 

    My world just seems so difficult to decipher......

    Toodle pip

  • I'm 45 and was diagnosed a couple of months ago. Also trying to make sense of it. Maybe a good place to begin is your local NAS meetup/support group? Admittedly, mine is still not running due to Corona-virus, but hopefully this will change soon.

  • Hi ,

    It is great that you have reached out to the community. I'm sure you'll find lots of other members who are in a similar position and will offer their support.

    If you have any other questions, or wanted some advice, you may like to contact our Autism Helpline team. They can provide you with information and advice on your issue. You can call them on 0808 800 4104 (Monday to Thursday 10am to 4pm, Friday 9am to 3pm).Please note that the Helpline is experiencing a high volume of calls and it may take a couple of attempts before you get through to speak to an advisor.

    I hope this helps,

    ChloeMod:)

  • Hi

    Sounds very familiar. I'm 47 and like you recently diagnosed. The diagnosis process had me looking back into the past and remembering a lot of things I'd rather not remember. I'm having to reevaluate my life and try to make sense of my past. This forum helps as I see parts of my own experiences mirrored in other peoples. Especially where I see a behaviour that I'd not picked up on before.

    The difficulty I have now is working out just what I'm going to do with this new information I have.

    To be clear I feel much better that I have for a long time but sometimes feel loss and morn for the life I could have had. This is ridiculous as I have a good life and who knows where I would have ended up with a earlier diagnosis. 

  • Hiya!

    I am 34 and just recently diagnosed.  I’m going through a process of reframing my experiences in the context of being autistic - I have found this a positive experience overall but also there are some instances where I am angry that I was not supported when I was clearly struggling massively.