Facebook and issues with not having lived the life many seem to have lived.

I think FB and the Community pages are like the Yin and Yang of social media. I love the honesty on here and the fact you can say anything and not be judged.

I really relate to your post AlwaysIS. My parents divorced when I was 5 and pockets of abuse followed with my Dad’s second partner. I never really had friends and struggle with that even now. I think it’s true what Plastic says, FakeBook, is exactly that. I find myself looking up people from school and comparing myself to what they appear to be. Usually on the side of they are doing better than me. Then every so often I hear that everything is not as it appears.

I think I’m rambling, but the point is you’re not alone on here at least.

It’s a fact - a genocide WAS instigated and allowed to happen by Facebook. FACT 

Same goes for mass shootings - the mods on Facebook ARE child slaves in third world countries. FACT. They watch as murders happen live. FACT. 

WAKE UP otherwise you’re adding to it. 

Hi AlwaysIS, I recently deleted Facebook (though kept the messenger app) because I start thinking about myself differently when I go on it, and find it very easy to compare myself to other people via that medium, or start wondering if I've forgotten to add someone as a friend. Also to repeat Plastic's thoughts, you see a highly edited output, far away from their full experience. You're the only person who has lived your experience, and for what it's worth I think it really helps to try to attend only to your own words and actions, and your own intuition, which Facebook can really distract a person from sometimes. Wishing you all the very best

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I also had very similar parenting!....And yes....where on earth is that coffee shop...lol ive never found it myself

Obviously Facebook is evil but surely that's going a bit far.

Given your age, if you are female you might also want to consider you could be going through the peri-menopause. I have read this can cause a worsening of autistic sensitivities etc and it can cause depression and stuff in NT women.

Some people (male or female) also experience that they call a 'mid-life crisis' where they seem to change all their beliefs, be able to 'see through people' or feel they are unhappy/cheated out of life or regret past decisions for other reasons.

Been in lockdown probably hasn't helped either, particuarly if you've found it stressful (having to cope with new rules in shops etc when you've had to go for food or running out of food cos no delivery slot available for weeks or months).

Facebook ruined a past friendship for me. People used to tell you important stuff in person now they just announce everything on FB to save them time. ..then to rub it in further they tag the people they told before they posted...and if you weren't one of them and never got the message then hey I guess...  you're no longer on their 'besties list' (with no idea of what you did wrong).

FB doesn’t stand for Facebook.. stands for False Beliefs.I cannot stand Facebook or social media as a whole. It’s turned the majority of people in to the paparazzi’s apprentice and they can be as vicious as said paparazzi dragging honest people down just so they can gossip and make themselves feel important. Rant over.

Such a well written response from Plastic. I relate to most of what you have written AlwaysIS! apart from the friends in school. I would be alone or flit amongst people hanging around them but still an outsider. My mum was abusive, dad wasent about very much. They split when I was 16. Both went to persue new lives, leaving me to fend for myself. I'd love friends but I find them so hard to work out. What I've believed to be friendship in the past, turned out not to be anything of the sort.

I enjoy going to see music play and I sit at the back just taking it in on my own. I would love a nice coffee shop/book shop where I could sit and read peacefully and not be harrassed. Is there such a place lol

Hi

You appear to be going through a kind of grieving process for the life you never had - but FB is the worst place to look for comfort - it's totally fake!       People (NTs) only ever show the positives in their life so for every fake, photo-shopped positive, there'll be a hidden negative that is eating their soul.      They live a life of shiny surfaces, a new car, flashy holiday, big house - but you don't see them in tears every month trying to make the credit card payments.      

You sound like you need to speak to someone about all this but it's difficult because our openness with talking about negative things (compared to NT's secrecy) instantly get us labelled as depressed - an easy catch-all diagnosis that shoves you onto someone else down the line - eventually - or just given a load of pills and told to go away.          Your gp may be able to help if they are autistic-aware.

You seem smart and self-aware enough to understand your situation - so what do you actually want to do?       Are you looking to move forward and maybe cultivate a bit of a social life?         What interests do you have?      I find the more strange and nerdy hobbies are infested with undiagnosed auties/aspies so are really comfortable places to be - and they are totally accepting of whoever you are - even if you just want to sit in silence and absorb a bit of the atmosphere.