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Moved to a new shared apartment

NAS65769

Hello,

I am 30 years old and  recently diagnosed with Autism. 

It is a month I have moved to a new shared student housing which I have a private room with shared common area/ bathroom/ kitchen.

I am so anxious to go out of my room and use bathroom or kitchen. It is been terrible with noises as well but I soundproofed my door two days ago. What can I do? Some days I can locked up in my room for 13 hours and it is painful for me. 

  • I’ve been in a similar situation, and what helped me was figuring out the quiet times when no one else was around to use the kitchen or bathroom. It made things a lot less stressful, and I could just do my thing without worrying about bumping into anyone. If I did run into someone, I’d keep it super simple—just a quick “hey” or a nod to keep it short.
    If this setup keeps feeling too much, you could think about moving to a quieter place with more privacy. I’ve seen places like axonproperties.ca that offer private student rentals, and it might be worth checking out if you’re looking for something less hectic and more your speed.

  • in reply to NAS75101

    cant tell if deleted by mod is a fun joke or something that was actually deleted by a mod....

    but you know what, i think that... (deleted by mod)

  • shared accomodation, ouch, i wouldnt ever consider having a shared accomodation, id rather be homeless. and students too, students are the worst of humanity so id expect them to kick down my door any time and assault me.

  • Hi there,  you haven't said whether this is privately rented or through the student accommodation services.  In either case it might be worth talking to student accommodation.  In view of your diagnosis they should help you move to somewhere quieter where you don't have to share facilities.

  • If you're someone finding new house/ apartment in NYC then I've a good news for you (deleted by Mod)

  • in reply to Kitsune

    Yes, they usually wake up after me and I found out around 5 to 7 pm they are usually in their rooms. Thanks for pointing out that. My brain got shut down with the situation and really didn't know what to do. Now at least I can write those times to help myself.

    Actually, duration of my education stretched a lot because of depression and adhd and anxiety diagnosis(which I believe those happened because I didn't know I am autistic). Now I only need to finish my thesis. But sadly changing house and conditions of living is a bit overwhelming. If I can continue my old routine and form new ones which they fit into my new situation then it can save me. 

  • in reply to NAS65769

    Are there times when your flat mates are often out or asleep when it might be easier for you to go out of your room? How do you cope in lectures?

  • in reply to Kitsune

    I had headphones previously, then this week I bought a better noise cancelling headphones.which are better.

    Beside the noises I am afraid that I will see other people and they will start talking with me. I am really bad at small talk. This is preventing me from getting out of the room. All of this resulted in loosing my previous rituals and routines and that added to my problems.

  • I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through this. Is it anything in particular that is making you anxious? Have you tried noise cancelling headphones?