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How do neurologically typical people feel & experience life?

I'm done with Christmas Cards
over 4 years ago

I know this is pretty futile musing, although maybe some of the more neurologically typical people on here can help! (I shy away from using the term "NT's" because it feels a bit "them and us" to me).

I've found myself wondering, as I'm accepting, exploring and deepening my understanding of my own atypicalness & ASD diagnosis, about what it's like for others.

For every "aha!" moment I have about e.g. noisy restaurants, eye contact, lack of capability / impetus to maintain friendships, exhaustion in social situations, there is a corresponding "What's it like for others?" moment.

So for example, for typical people:

  • How does the world *sound*? Is it muted, filtered by attention etc?
  • How does eye contact *feel* when experienced as something that you *want* to do? Even with strangers?
  • What's it like to be drawn to want to be with a group of other people?
  • What's it like to enjoy a day out with friends, and not be exhausted (except in a tired & content kind of way)?
  • What's it like to be thrilled at the prospect of going out every single evening for days in a row?
  • What's it like to want to ask other people where they went on holiday, and be interested in what they tell you about where they went and what they saw?
  • What's it like to say the opposite of what you mean, because for e.g. you're being polite, and yet know that everyone knows what you actually mean?
  • What's it like to wish that you had more time for travel, seeing family members, more face to face meetings etc?
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  • over 4 years ago

    I love to head out, but not for too long. Next Saturday, I plan to spend an entire day in Belfast; leading up to a Christmas Dinner at Windsor Park's Hospitality Suite. There's a disco afterwards, but I'll only be staying for the food. Then I'll get the 11 pm bus back to Tomme park-and-ride; and a taxi home. (I'm doing the same for this evening, as I'll be heading to a Musical Gig - but I'll probably shy away from the more intimate crowd)

    I think normies manage because they have less sense of time than us. They can get lost in a bottle of wine, spliff, etc. I, for one, feel that the last few hours before an event is excruciating.

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  • over 4 years ago

    I love to head out, but not for too long. Next Saturday, I plan to spend an entire day in Belfast; leading up to a Christmas Dinner at Windsor Park's Hospitality Suite. There's a disco afterwards, but I'll only be staying for the food. Then I'll get the 11 pm bus back to Tomme park-and-ride; and a taxi home. (I'm doing the same for this evening, as I'll be heading to a Musical Gig - but I'll probably shy away from the more intimate crowd)

    I think normies manage because they have less sense of time than us. They can get lost in a bottle of wine, spliff, etc. I, for one, feel that the last few hours before an event is excruciating.

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