Why

Over the last few weeks and months, I have been asking my self the question. Why my parents didn't seek diagnosis while I was a child. I saw many educational psychologists and other professionals. 

I got through so many pencils, because I used to chew them, my concentration levels at school was poor (it still is). I started school in the late 70's, even at an early age i was struggling, from what i can remember even before I started school there were problems. 

I remember having the struggles of being singled out because my work wasn't up to scratch.  

 I'm now 47 and stuck on a waiting list that is making me feel anxious. 

Parents
  • Similar experience here.  Coming from a working class background growing up in the 80s and 90s, the best defence I can put up for my parents is that they simply didn't know about autism.  We didn't have internet back then, and it's not like they were going to pick up a book on a subject they probably wouldn't understand anyway.

    That being said, I remember struggling to read the blackboard in school from a very young age.  I needed glasses obviously, but I just didn't understand why or even have the vocabulary to explain to anyone at that time.  I think I must have been 15 or 16 when I got my first pair of glasses.  It's odd because I remember very vividly there were periodic eye exams in primary school, you'd think they would have picked up my short sightedness and informed my parents.

    I also needed braces as my adult teeth came in at age 9-10, didn't get those until I was a young adult and took it upon myself to get it sorted.  I was never pushed academically either, I suppose they (parents and teachers) thought I was just stupid and not worth the effort.  I think that I could have done much better in school and in life had these obstacles been taken care of by a responsible parent.  It's no wonder I'm depressed.

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  • Similar experience here.  Coming from a working class background growing up in the 80s and 90s, the best defence I can put up for my parents is that they simply didn't know about autism.  We didn't have internet back then, and it's not like they were going to pick up a book on a subject they probably wouldn't understand anyway.

    That being said, I remember struggling to read the blackboard in school from a very young age.  I needed glasses obviously, but I just didn't understand why or even have the vocabulary to explain to anyone at that time.  I think I must have been 15 or 16 when I got my first pair of glasses.  It's odd because I remember very vividly there were periodic eye exams in primary school, you'd think they would have picked up my short sightedness and informed my parents.

    I also needed braces as my adult teeth came in at age 9-10, didn't get those until I was a young adult and took it upon myself to get it sorted.  I was never pushed academically either, I suppose they (parents and teachers) thought I was just stupid and not worth the effort.  I think that I could have done much better in school and in life had these obstacles been taken care of by a responsible parent.  It's no wonder I'm depressed.

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