Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello all. I’m new here and hoped someone may be able to help me, or whether anyone has experience with this. I have searched the forum but couldn’t find anything quite like the issue I have.
I have been in continuous employment at one company for the last 7 years. I am a female in my 30s.
I am currently going through the autism diagnostic process with the NHS. I have completed Stage 1 and have been invited back for Stage 2, though I don’t have a date for this yet.
I do intend to tell work if a diagnosis is confirmed, however something has come up and I may need to disclose this earlier than anticipated.
Has anyone been in a situation like this before? Is it worth telling them even though I don’t know if it will be confirmed?
My declaring at work was the worst thing I ever did. It opened me up to all sorts of abuse and bullying, being excluded from things and being talked about behind my back. It was career suicide.
I was exceptional in the role but I couldn't cope with the utter incompetence and lies from my manager. My appraisals were BS and, because I cannot function when I am so abused, my ability to communicate disappears and the only words shouting in my head is F*** OFF. Better to say nothing - so I become mute.
The bully wins.
I totally agree with you. Over the years I have learned to bite my lip. But in periods of stress I can easily lose it over something that I would ordinarily ignore. That said I've got to the point of not giving a stuff at work and would be quite glad to be made redundant. All the so called support our company offers is purely to tick boxes :(