Hi, I am wondering what peoples views are on whether autism/ASD is hereditary. My daughter, now 18, was diagnosed age 15. Her assessment came as a result of being an inpatient for a severe eating disorder. 6 months later my son was diagnosed at age 19. Neither my husband or myself have been diagnosed or assessed but I can't help wondering how we managed to bring our lovely children up for 15 years without picking up on the ASD. My daughter was always anxious but it appeared to be manageable. Retrospectively it clearly was not manageable and she ended up very ill.
Anyhow, I was wondering if the reason that we hadn't picked up on any ASD traits is because in our house eveybody's behaviors is perfectly typical. When we discussed how they played as children both my husband and me said to the psychologist 'but doesn't everyone play like that?'. In the tasks that they did for the ADOS they gave responses that we thought were typical responses. My husband has always been widely regarded as eccentric but he has been very fortunate in his employment in that everyone loves him for his eccentricity (including me). I myself am extremely introverted and hate social situations, avoiding them at all costs unless absolutely unavoidable. So I was wondering if the reason why both my children have ASD could be because either me or my husband (or both) unknowingly have it, and maybe that is why we haven't picked it up in our children. That is to say in our house ASD is normal and most others walking through our front door are in effect neuro atypical! I would appreciate your thoughts. Thanks.
Both of my parents are neurotypical and nobody in close family has any kind of mental disability so nobody gets me and I don’t get them either. It’s difficult when interacting with them because my views can be seen as extreme or irrelevant due to who I am.
This may be why my best friend has bipolar and Aspergers, I don’t know whether being autistic is good or bad. It is often passed down but can also just occur out of the blue.
Sometimes i think I am unwanted by my family just because i am special and have certain needs. It’s difficult to explain to them because I’m smarter than most of them but I can’t talk to people very well.
Life is just so confusing.
I would say that the point that they don't get you is because they may well be on the autism spectrum. Which is highly likely and they just can't see it. Rigid thinking goes both ways and is very autistic.
When you begin reading up on autism signals you will see yourself and you will see your parents and grandparents in a different way.
They are not gods, just your parents.
Having bipolar or any other mental illness is not autism. They sometimes are just there or seem to be there because of the autism-related stress.
Being autistic can be stressful and can be wonderful. Try and make it wonderful. And if it's not, try again.
Life is confusing, and autistics are very good at puzzles. Try looking at some more positive aspects of what you have. Or try and pursue these:
Art; Science; math; medicine; law; music; singing. I even started skateboarding in my 20s. And now in my 40s trying keyboarding and law.
At whatever age you are you have a chance.