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Learning to say No

Bookworm
over 5 years ago

I've just realised, partly from coming on here and reading some of the threads and partly from getting my diagnosis I have more confidence than I realise.

It relates to just saying No, I still struggle greatly with arguing my point in a discussion and often crawl back into my shell but now if I'm asked to do something I don't agree with or go on a works night out and I don't want to go I now just say no, when I'm asked why I say because I don't  want to. This has just come as a revelation, whats more people dont even bother to question it any more because well you just can't argue with No!

Or maybe I care less what they think? I don't know but I'm seeing it as a positive step forward.

Does anybody else get this?

Parents
  • over 5 years ago

    Same here. Some people here have inspired me. I love my mother dearly but today I agreed to meet her at midday but had a panic attack when I went out prior to our arranged meeting. So I ended up leaving the scene and I told her I couldn't cope so couldn't meet her. I don't think I could have done that without people here showing me that it's okay to be myself. I love my mother so much so I never want to disappoint her. But I guess people here taught me I have to look after my own needs as well.

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  • over 5 years ago

    Same here. Some people here have inspired me. I love my mother dearly but today I agreed to meet her at midday but had a panic attack when I went out prior to our arranged meeting. So I ended up leaving the scene and I told her I couldn't cope so couldn't meet her. I don't think I could have done that without people here showing me that it's okay to be myself. I love my mother so much so I never want to disappoint her. But I guess people here taught me I have to look after my own needs as well.

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