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Employer invalidating diagnosis

Bookworm
over 5 years ago

Hi, My employer seem to be invalidating my AS diagnosis. I had a disciplinary appeal the other day and somebody made the comment' Oh that's just one person's opinion', I was gobsmacked all the problems I have had throughout my life and it was like this one person brought my whole world crashing down. I have struggled all my life with communicating with others and feeling different, I got my diagnosis 3 years ago from a psychologist that advertises on this very web site, who specialises in adult AS diagnosis and used NICE guidelines, surely that is proof that this person is is qualified to diagnose AS, isn't it?

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  • over 5 years ago

    Thanks OP for the topic, and like others I am sorry to hear how your employers have approached this, have you got the documentation to back this up and shown them? I ask because I work in retail and over the years I have found that working with the colleagues is extremely difficult - After a while I am used to people seeing my cracks and becoming distant.

    But more recently it has become very conflicting - I had a supervisor lie to a manager regarding an issue between us to save his skin. So one of my biggest motivations for going through the diagnosis is so when (Yes, when) the time comes and this confrontation explodes I can then reveal my diagnosis and hopefully have them back off a bit - I don't really trust any of them with the information on my diagnosis prior to being forced to reveal it, as I said they're aren't a lot of people that I get on with there.

  • over 5 years ago in reply to NAS39237

    I hope there are at least some people there that you get on with and trust, otherwise it sounds like a very bleak place and I’d be wanting out of there. I don’t think I would like to work with people I don’t get on with. I can’t even imagine it. 

  • over 5 years ago in reply to Deleted user

    There are, It's not the staff its the management. The problem is I've been moved from the support I had. And yes you are right it is my worst nightmare.

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  • over 5 years ago in reply to NAS39237

    What do you love to do 39237? What makes your heart sing? Forget about it in terms of work, just think about what you really love to do and let me know. I’ll then show you what you can do with that information. 

  • over 5 years ago in reply to Bookworm

    Oh it is the exact same problem at my place - Might be more due to the notion that my postion-level colleagues can't bother me so. Though admittedly, I feel my social debilitations limit the bonds I have with other colleagues.

    I think when it comes to looking for another job I am sort of lost - Prior to this job I was unemployed for 2-3 years and barely got past the application process... which annoyed me as I had decent enough CV input. So I am apprehensive to leave, but struggling in staying there. I also really don't know what else to even look for as every job I have had in the past leads to me being ostracised in this way, I can deal with customers in short measure but maintaining bonds with colleagues over time is a difficulty.