Boyfriend with autism flirting with other girls?

Ok pull up a chair, get comfy. My short  reply gathered momentum and has grown out of all proportion, skip it if you like, 

my thoughts and I am not trying to say ALL autistics may think like me or that my thoughts are indicative of autism, 

I think the many responses have pretty much said what may be happening here, 

I don’t believe he is flirting, he may be admiring the female form, it doesn’t  follow he actually wants the female he is looking at, 

I may be wrong but in his innocence he may like looking at them like anyone may be looking at a beuatiful piece of art, or something that is so emotionally powerful that he is overwhelmed with feelings to process, it doesn’t mean he thinks less of you or wants someone else, yes a very clinical way of looking at it, he certainly won’t be comparing or judging you against them, He is most likely feeling unbelievably lucky to have you as his partner as you try to see why he does what he does, you are here trying to understand his world in the way he knows it, your amazing, 

the suggestion of mine that looking at a beuatiful art work is similar to looking at a female may sound crass, but in an innocent mind it really isn’t unfaithful or a threat to yourself. Merely seeing beauty wherever it is, again not meaning to cause you upset, collating data, trying to gather information that presents it self which he then tries to analyse, hence the trance like state. 

Knowing his diagnosis has pretty much in some way to him given justification to stare in itself tells me prior to it he may have been more guarded and less likely to admit what he is doing. It isn’t an excuse he is using,  more a justification for how he has always been. ( Autistic May stare ) kind of thing?

Also knowing he has you as his partner may, allow him to feel more secure to look now, sounds strange, but if he were single then he may be challenged if noticed by the female and possibly even flirted with, he has you to show he isn’t trying to flirt, he feels safer to stare. You give him a level of safety as you are his partner, 

I find myself people watching, always have. I don’t know that I stare transfixed, but I am fascinated by watching how people behave. Male and female.

 I have realised how I manage to single out open minded people, it can be as simple as a little glance, followed by a subtle raised eyebrow, it is a kind of mutual exchange of understanding, as if to say” hey, you too can see what I see! Shhh keep it between us” and that can be from some distance away, the knowing glance!

In my innocence I once asked a female colleague if she knew when the men were staring at her, she replied “ oh yes, I do, I just wish they would look at my face more when talking to me”. “ all my life I have had to accept most look at my top half not my face”

I then asked if she had ever noticed me staring at her in that way, her reply was “ no you actually look at my face not my body”,  I hadn’t looked at her in any particular way, yes I noticed she had certain pronounced body parts but what possible difference does that make to me? 

now how many people would in all innocence ask such a direct question without thinking it could be in any way suggestive? I was told I should not  ask such questions again, and that you just don’t ask things like that? 

I had noticed the men staring at her body and there whole demeanour was strange, their voices were different, the body language was weird to me, they acted more like giggly little boys, I have witnessed this many times, as soon as a female turns up they change completely, I even said to one worker “ what was that all about?” He denied anything was any different in how he behaved, I asked him why he behaved so different , again he said he hadn’t.

I treat all people the same, polite and at work professional, it matters not if Male or female, I have noticed when a female was trying to win me over in order for me to do more work than I was contracted to do, I replied if their was time and was possible I might, but it would have to be booked as an extra and billed accordingly, she didn’t look best pleased?

anyway my thoughts may be totally wrong, as said try to ask him more but try to not be aggressive in tone, 

As with most things I over analyse, over explain my thoughts, write to much, go off on tangents, ramble a lot, have anxiety about going back to work in the morning, hence this late night reply. Life as me is full on. My mind races along, so many things to think about, 

Take care and I thank you for trying to understand your partners world, 

Ok pull up a chair, get comfy. My short  reply gathered momentum and has grown out of all proportion, skip it if you like, 

my thoughts and I am not trying to say ALL autistics may think like me or that my thoughts are indicative of autism, 

I think the many responses have pretty much said what may be happening here, 

I don’t believe he is flirting, he may be admiring the female form, it doesn’t  follow he actually wants the female he is looking at, 

I may be wrong but in his innocence he may like looking at them like anyone may be looking at a beuatiful piece of art, or something that is so emotionally powerful that he is overwhelmed with feelings to process, it doesn’t mean he thinks less of you or wants someone else, yes a very clinical way of looking at it, he certainly won’t be comparing or judging you against them, He is most likely feeling unbelievably lucky to have you as his partner as you try to see why he does what he does, you are here trying to understand his world in the way he knows it, your amazing, 

the suggestion of mine that looking at a beuatiful art work is similar to looking at a female may sound crass, but in an innocent mind it really isn’t unfaithful or a threat to yourself. Merely seeing beauty wherever it is, again not meaning to cause you upset, collating data, trying to gather information that presents it self which he then tries to analyse, hence the trance like state. 

Knowing his diagnosis has pretty much in some way to him given justification to stare in itself tells me prior to it he may have been more guarded and less likely to admit what he is doing. It isn’t an excuse he is using,  more a justification for how he has always been. ( Autistic May stare ) kind of thing?

Also knowing he has you as his partner may, allow him to feel more secure to look now, sounds strange, but if he were single then he may be challenged if noticed by the female and possibly even flirted with, he has you to show he isn’t trying to flirt, he feels safer to stare. You give him a level of safety as you are his partner, 

I find myself people watching, always have. I don’t know that I stare transfixed, but I am fascinated by watching how people behave. Male and female.

 I have realised how I manage to single out open minded people, it can be as simple as a little glance, followed by a subtle raised eyebrow, it is a kind of mutual exchange of understanding, as if to say” hey, you too can see what I see! Shhh keep it between us” and that can be from some distance away, the knowing glance!

In my innocence I once asked a female colleague if she knew when the men were staring at her, she replied “ oh yes, I do, I just wish they would look at my face more when talking to me”. “ all my life I have had to accept most look at my top half not my face”

I then asked if she had ever noticed me staring at her in that way, her reply was “ no you actually look at my face not my body”,  I hadn’t looked at her in any particular way, yes I noticed she had certain pronounced body parts but what possible difference does that make to me? 

now how many people would in all innocence ask such a direct question without thinking it could be in any way suggestive? I was told I should not  ask such questions again, and that you just don’t ask things like that? 

I had noticed the men staring at her body and there whole demeanour was strange, their voices were different, the body language was weird to me, they acted more like giggly little boys, I have witnessed this many times, as soon as a female turns up they change completely, I even said to one worker “ what was that all about?” He denied anything was any different in how he behaved, I asked him why he behaved so different , again he said he hadn’t.

I treat all people the same, polite and at work professional, it matters not if Male or female, I have noticed when a female was trying to win me over in order for me to do more work than I was contracted to do, I replied if their was time and was possible I might, but it would have to be booked as an extra and billed accordingly, she didn’t look best pleased?

anyway my thoughts may be totally wrong, as said try to ask him more but try to not be aggressive in tone, 

As with most things I over analyse, over explain my thoughts, write to much, go off on tangents, ramble a lot, have anxiety about going back to work in the morning, hence this late night reply. Life as me is full on. My mind races along, so many things to think about, 

Take care and I thank you for trying to understand your partners world,