Published on 12, July, 2020
Ok, so here’s the thing.
My boyfriend has aspergers syndrome. He keeps staring at other girls when we go out- and I don’t mean just glaring, lookig, peeking. I mean downright STARING silently at a girl, watching her every move until she leaves his sight.
This makes me a little jealous of course. I don’t mind him looking, because hey I look at guys too, but I don’t stare at them so obviously. I’ve talked to him about this, expressed how I’ve felt when he does this.
He keeps saying he didn’t mean to stare, and that he only wants me, and so on. He also says it’s because of his diagnosis that he’s acting like this. So autism makes guys stare at other girls and flirt with other girls even though he is in a relationship?
Maybe it does? That’s why I’ve come here to ask hopefully other adults who have autism.
Thank you in advanve.
Flirting isn't something we're exsactly very good the majority of us introverts and usually intimated by attractive women to be honest. I talk to women the same way Id talk to guy and as far as telling if she's interested me or not I'm not sure I'd be able too partly why I've never had a relationship. Staring at people I find is usually an NT trait. Since the majority of us strugel with eye contact and try to avoid others gazes at the best of time. But usually if we're talking to someone we talk pretty fast and to some come across as intense and then they think we're flirting when actually we're not. Asperger's do tend be a bit more creepy around women admitly cause they lack certain boundaries not all but a few
Ive known in the past do. It usually depends on how they've been bought up rather than just blaming it on there autism all together. For me the majority of my family were female so learnt from them to how to behave around women but those with know female role models in the family admidly can come across as unintentionally creepy or forward. If that's helps. This one I guy I use to know have me constant anxiety cause of how inappropriate he was around women so I stopped being freinds in the end otherwise he would of got in me trouble through association so your not in the wrong but then again not everyone with autism isnt the same either.