Published on 12, July, 2020
There have been lots of posts lately about Christmas. I quite like Christmas and find it quite manageable. New Year however, I find much harder.
The last few years I've just stayed in by myself to avoid it but have felt myself feeling really quite upset and lonely especially seeing everyone's pictures on social media of them enjoying bringing it in with their loved ones. I know I should avoid looking but I can't resist.
I'd happily see in the new year with a small group of friends. Food, a few drinks and some games. This would be my perfect new year. I don't know anyone that would want to bring in the new year like this though.
I have the option this year of going to the pub with a couple of friends but I know the pub will be really busy on New Years Eve and I would just hate it. I'm not a big drinker either. I've tried going to the pub for New Year before and just sat in the corner wishing the hours away.
I don't really have any close friends so it's difficult to explain to people why I wouldn't want to bring in New Year the same way as them and I certainly don't want to ruin anyone else's fun.
My parents have a group of friends that take it in turns to host New Year so I can't go to them either.
I really hate New Year after New Year being me bringing it in alone. I like me time and not spending too much time with people but I really wish I had a good friend or 2 I could share these times with and would understand the difficulties I have with them.
How do other people cope with this time of year?
I stay inside and watch TV. The programs are better than the rest of the year.
Now I live alone, so I obviously watch TV alone.
When my mother was alive and I was her full time carer, we had European satellite TV positioned at 13E and 19.2E. so we watched the year celebrations from other countries. At 9pm we had the new year from Moscow, then the capitals from Eastern Europe, then Western Europe, finally the UK.
This is what I've done the last few years but all the New Year tv makes me feel a bit rubbish and like I can't avoid it. I put a film on in the end last year. Probably what I will do this year too.
Write out, in full detail, what your ideal New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day would look like. Write it in the present tense. Then make a list of how you could achieve it. You might never do these things but that’s not the point, the point is to demonstrate to your subconscious mind that it’s possible. You could put down something like, review or look online at suitable venues, ask around to find out who shares your idea of the perfect new year celebrations. Then when you’ve finished that, the third part is writing as if you have already experienced it, for example, OMG this was the best New Year’s Eve of my life, I loved it so much, it was perfect.
You can then put this away or make it into a dream board and put it where you will see it often.
I like your idea of the perfect New Year’s Eve so you can put me on your list, and it’s something that can easily be arranged and also, if anyone is desperately short of money, the rest of us could put together so no one gets left out.