Published on 12, July, 2020
There have been lots of posts lately about Christmas. I quite like Christmas and find it quite manageable. New Year however, I find much harder.
The last few years I've just stayed in by myself to avoid it but have felt myself feeling really quite upset and lonely especially seeing everyone's pictures on social media of them enjoying bringing it in with their loved ones. I know I should avoid looking but I can't resist.
I'd happily see in the new year with a small group of friends. Food, a few drinks and some games. This would be my perfect new year. I don't know anyone that would want to bring in the new year like this though.
I have the option this year of going to the pub with a couple of friends but I know the pub will be really busy on New Years Eve and I would just hate it. I'm not a big drinker either. I've tried going to the pub for New Year before and just sat in the corner wishing the hours away.
I don't really have any close friends so it's difficult to explain to people why I wouldn't want to bring in New Year the same way as them and I certainly don't want to ruin anyone else's fun.
My parents have a group of friends that take it in turns to host New Year so I can't go to them either.
I really hate New Year after New Year being me bringing it in alone. I like me time and not spending too much time with people but I really wish I had a good friend or 2 I could share these times with and would understand the difficulties I have with them.
How do other people cope with this time of year?
I’m not fussed for New Year in any way (though I did sarcastically ask my mum which Easter egg she wanted to celebrate New Year earlier today as I couldn’t believe the shops were stocking them right now!), so I usually make sure to stay in so as to avoid business and drunk people out and about. I’m happy just to have some nice food, a glass of wine and watch the fireworks on TV from the comfort of my own home.
This year however I have a very good, if unfortunate, distraction in that my guinea pig is poorly and thus requires hand feeding every hour, so that’s what I’ll be doing for New Year as I did for a Christmas, and as it looks I’ll be doing for my birthday... Still, what could be more enjoyable on any day than dedicating yourself to saving the life of a pet who you share unconditional love with?
I probably am happier just staying in and watching tv. I think it's more the idea of it. I just feel like it's a massive reminder that I don't fit in and don't have many people in my life.
Saving the life of your guinea pig - that is definitely a reason to stay in.