Are there any women here?

Hi

I am a 39 year old woman, diagnosed with Asperger's almost exactly one year ago. It's great to hear from other women on here, I identify with a lot of what you are saying! I've been meaning to post here to ask a question actually, and this seems like a good thread to post it on

Can anyone recommend a good, accessible, not too lengthy book I can give my mum to read that explains AS disorders, preferably in women and girls, child and adult. My diagnosis is quite new, I have a reasonably good relationship with my parents but I live quite far from them, have done for almost 20 years, so I only see them maybe twice a year. I feel very frustrated trying to explain to them how my ASD affects me because I am not around them regularly and they are not really part of my day to day life. I am usually ok at social situations, and my mum is a bit old school and a bit of that mindset where I think she suspects there is nothing really wrong, that it is 'just a label', she even came out with the classic 'well, everyone's a bit autistic'!

I'm hoping there is something out there! 

Thanks

Ohh nooo, the classic "everyone's a bit autistic" cringe cringe. It really is such a frequent remark. One that stops me telling people. 

Of course I think there is the issue, that as it often is genetic, there is a faint possibility that one of your parents also has traits, and if they have struggled a life time, it might be hard for them that maybe they also need some recognition for their struggles.

Here some titles on female ASD: 

https://www.amazon.com/Things-Woman-Aspergers-Syndrome-Partner/dp/1849058830/ref=pd_sim_14_2?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1849058830&pd_rd_r=8GEV8W4KA2Q0R8W93FSR&pd_rd_w=o8pMf&pd_rd_wg=IrU50&psc=1&refRID=8GEV8W4KA2Q0R8W93FSR This book is meant for partners of. But maybe interesting. 

My problem is I've read many books and can't properly remember what I've read: I think I liked this one: https://www.amazon.com/Aspergers-Girls-World-Renowned-Experts-Syndrome/dp/193256540X/ref=pd_sim_14_4?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=193256540X&pd_rd_r=8GEV8W4KA2Q0R8W93FSR&pd_rd_w=o8pMf&pd_rd_wg=IrU50&psc=1&refRID=8GEV8W4KA2Q0R8W93FSR

There are also great videos by Tony Attwood on youtube you could show your mum.

I haven't yet read this book, maybe someone reading along has? It looks great: 

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06XC9YC6S/ref=sspa_dk_detail_2?psc=1&pd_rd_i=B06XC9YC6S&pd_rd_wg=ya4uK&pd_rd_r=AGWZQ0V4SMCYNYE84ACZ&pd_rd_w=uFcGW

https://www.amazon.com/Pretending-Normal-Aspergers-Syndrome-Spectrum/dp/1849057559/ref=pd_sim_14_7?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1849057559&pd_rd_r=FZRG4YK2T8H4Q30X1XWW&pd_rd_w=7ZR7u&pd_rd_wg=KYPw1&psc=1&refRID=FZRG4YK2T8H4Q30X1XWW

oh and this one looks very good: https://www.amazon.com/Women-Girls-Autism-Spectrum-Disorder/dp/1849055475/ref=pd_sim_14_21?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1849055475&pd_rd_r=CZ1KK5NRMGX679FZ5XYS&pd_rd_w=S8Lt4&pd_rd_wg=ms6EC&psc=1&refRID=CZ1KK5NRMGX679FZ5XYS

But I'm sorry I'm not really answering your question. There are loads of books out there about female Late diagnosis ASD, but I'm not really sure which one would be good for your mum. Good luck!

Thank you so much. I do have a copy of the Sarah Hendrickx one but I started reading it and found the style of writing a bit hard going, I couldn't really get past the first few pages so was hoping to find something a bit simpler if that makes sense! Maybe I just need to give it another go. Some other good options in there too, thanks! I think it's just a case of making sure my mum is better informed

Thank you so much. I do have a copy of the Sarah Hendrickx one but I started reading it and found the style of writing a bit hard going, I couldn't really get past the first few pages so was hoping to find something a bit simpler if that makes sense! Maybe I just need to give it another go. Some other good options in there too, thanks! I think it's just a case of making sure my mum is better informed