Published on 12, July, 2020
I'm at the age now where I need a significant other in my life. I've been using POF for a while now and having no luck getting any responses from the hundred or so potentials.
Any idea where I should go?
I recommend against dating humans. They're undependable, immoral fusspots. I'm quite happy riding my motorcycle. Solitary freedom is satisfaction.
I've come to that conclusion myself. I'm much more content now living alone than I ever was in a relationship - despite the obvious downsides!
A favourite film of mine is 'Lonesome Jim', starring Casey Affleck. In one scene, he asks his uncle if he has a girlfriend.
'No. I use hookers. They're cheaper!'
A nice bit of cynicism, that!
But I understand how it is for many people. I know a lot of Aspies who are desperately lonely people. And a desperately lonely Aspie is probably a lot more desperately lonely than the average NT. We have a lot more hurdles to jump.
I think, if I did decide to try for another relationship, it could only be with certain understandings in place first. Mainly - no cohabitation. I know people who've sustained very successful relationships for many years, but by living apart. Not hundreds of miles, necessarily - but apart nevertheless. A chap I know in Devon has a great relationship with his partner, who lives 10 minutes' walk away. That would do me!