Published on 12, July, 2020
Yet again I have had another shutdown at work and have been sent home.
I was off work before Christmas due to the shutdowns and started to feel better after a few weeks. I have only been back at work for just over 3 days and I have had another one.
As a result, I am now worrying about my security in my job and the prospect of finding another job in a similar role. Since my shutdowns have become worse, the director of my department no longer speaks to me and I have yet to see the follow-up from occupational health. My boss appears to be supportive, but I am aware I am bringing little value to the company at the moment.
My confidence is currently really low and I am frustrated I can't manage things better. There seems to be no help and support as I am considered to be very HF and so don't qualify for adjustments, support, guidance etc.
I was wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation and whether you manage to get the help and support you need?
I am worried about my employment as I have a hefty mortgage to pay with no financial support from family etc. I can't afford to lose my job as I have been down this route before and ended up being homeless.
Sorry for ramblings and lack of cohesion, my anxiety is very high and I still haven't recovered properly.
Welcome back, we haven't heard from you for sometime.
And welcome to the club. I'm also facing homelessness in the near future.
I'm getting plenty of jobs interviews but that's it.
Hi Robert123,
I haven't been on the forums as much as I have been trying to focus on getting well ready for my return to work. I'm sorry to hear things haven't improved for you. :-(
It's not a nice situation to be in and I wish I had a magic wand to make everything wonderful. If homelessness is a real threat and you don't own or have a mortgage on your home, I would suggest getting in touch with the council to see what emergency accommodation is available - there is normally a waiting list unless you are deemed as being vulnerable, although I would argue everyone is who is facing this type of situation. If you do own or have a mortgage on your home then it's very difficult as you are not seen as being viable for support unless you are actually homeless.
It seems such a backward way of working to me, but what do I know.
I hope something comes through for you soon.
Last time I was in a crisis, the local council were useless.
Their publicity material claims that they will help and negotiate to prevent problems becoming out of hand.
But when it comes down to it. They will only do something when problems have reached a crisis point and not before.
Very kind of you to say such a thing, but I am merely standing on the shoulders of giants.
DongFeng5 said:
The basic problem here is a huge western cultural fallacy that "everyone busy working as hard as they can" equates to "maximum efficiency".
It would take the following to fix this:
1) enlightened individual diverts a % of total budget to deal with important but less urgent cases, so that they are dealt with earlier, whilst they are cheaper to fix. This requires faith that this is the right thing to do IN THE LONG TERM.
2) spend the rest on fire-fighting as usual
3) over time, the number of urgent cases should come down, if the % being diverted to a preventative approach is high enough.
I did have an urge to cover this topic myself, but I tend to go into heinous detail when I do, so I thought best not, and you have rounded and summed it up a total treat, nice one!
Total bonus factor ten.
I totally agree. I’ve said all along, give me an inch and I’ll give you more than a mile, meaning I know I don’t need a lot of help but I need some help but it’s got to be something that will work for me and then I will give so much back in terms of the effort I put into my side of the bargain. The fact that the wellbeing officer listens to me and admits she knows little about autism, is enormously helpful. And it turns out, she doesn’t need to know everything about autism, damn, I’m still learning, but she is helping me to accept it and take baby steps that are important to me. She said we might make some mistakes and there are things that I won’t find easy, but have to push through. For example, I have a huge avoidance aspect to my autism, and she said there are times when I have to push through this. But she’s not just leaving it there, she’s helping me to come up with plans/routines to help me work out when I need to push myself and when I need to give myself time and space to be me, and process and rest from all the pushing.
I have always said, my greatest work as a social worker came from the times I simply listened.
It does take just one person, you’re right, but there are other factors and one of them is that we have to take ownership of our needs and know, that we are protected in law and that we have certain rights. These are things offered in a civilised society, they’re not ‘charity’, they are what we need to be our best selves. Disability is not to be pitied, but supported and respected amongst all men. In the UK, we now work from the social model of disability, which changes everything.