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Do you have any Zen that helps you?

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over 6 years ago

Do you have any Zen that helps? 

This is a little Zen thing I was taught on a business course which helps at times and it doesn't have to be just anger.

A Zen Master (ZM) was in a field with students, an Angry Man (AM) came up to them and was being very angry to the ZM. 

ZM: (to his students) If someone has a gift for you, but you do not take it, who does it belong to?

Student: The person giving it.

ZM: (to AM) Sir, I do not wish to take your anger. 

Just leave them to stew in it, don't let them pass it onto you and leave you with it. 

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  • over 6 years ago

    That's a good way to look at it.  It's like the situation with my narcissist sister-in-law, who's created an awful lot of unhappiness in the family over the years - particularly with me.  I used to respond to her, or react to her.  She fed on it, of course. 

    So now... I've cut her off.  I no longer feed the beast.

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  • over 6 years ago

    That's a good way to look at it.  It's like the situation with my narcissist sister-in-law, who's created an awful lot of unhappiness in the family over the years - particularly with me.  I used to respond to her, or react to her.  She fed on it, of course. 

    So now... I've cut her off.  I no longer feed the beast.

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