Christmas Day shout out!

I’ll keep checking in Elie. I’ll be with my family, and they are often all sat on their phones anyway. They probably won’t be on Christmas Day as that will break their rules, but hey, I’ve always been a rule breaker so why stop now ;) I wouldn’t want to disappoint them. 

I’m finding that coming on here is really helping me so coming on here over the dreaded period will probably help me as well. 

You've got an awful lot of folk to deal with and as they say at Asda or somewhere, every little helps :-) see you on Christmas Eve X

Thank you Blueray.....you anarchist!! Glad being here with us motley lot is helping.

the guest list is not my choice....it is just my OH is a BIG xmas and family fan! - I am fighting the urge to do a runner and hide in someone's shed until the calm returns...

let me know if you have a cupboard under your stairs that you dont mind subletting for a couple of days! - lol

I'm a skinny bint, and fold well...  

Never mind the cupboard, I’ve got a house, a shed and a garden, take your pick :-) 

I find that if I can get a bit of escapism in and I keep as quite as I can, I can kind of enjoy the day. I think it’s gonna be ok, and if we can get on here and keep ourselves on an even keel, we can appreciate that we at least have a warm house,  people and nice food, even if it’s not our world. 

Being here is definitely helping. Like many have said, it can be a bit overwhelming sometimes but it is most definitely helping and I feel like I have a family. 

I am sorry,maybe I can get lots of Fpp3 face filters, you could mingle then, I really must be allowed to be me in my shed, it is one of my only spaces where I can exhist. Sorry, we can extend the party to outside though! Xxx

I could make amazing joints Lol. Huge great big ones ha ha, yes the smoke rings are reeeeaaaallllyyyyy cooool wow ,xxx

I can't cope with smoking or vaping, air fresheners or polish sprays, it feels like I am suffocating.

But i like scented body lotions and perfume, but proper scents, old names, expensive classics used properly, not drenched in cheap chemical stinks with celebrity names. 

I shouldn’t say this but I have a tiny tiny bit from about ten years ago! Vintage now Lol. I have never had the urge to use it, I do however love the smell, it was a birthday gift from a fellow worker, he thought if he could get me on it he could stop hiding his addiction? Little did he know I had experienced it when I was about sixteen, I took time off school to go to a festival , by far my fondest memories, freedom, real people, a micro community. 

I doubt it would still have any effect if smoked, but proves the lack of addiction that I still have it but don’t need to use it!

you get friggin amazing smoke rings doing that!! - hehe

Who's bringing the hallucinogenics?  I doubt we'll need any Ecstasy.

I don’t wish to upset but ellie and blue Ray! Are you sisters?soulmates I think, You share so many ways, are you one person?Lol.

I think it a positive by the way, 

i like free minded people, 

Oh and to enter my aspieshed you cannot wear deodorant or perfume, I will know and you will be left standing outside ha ha,

Do you exhale through your trunk?  I've always wondered...

Oh dear!  I feel I really must go out and buy a pouch of 'Clan' now and dig the old Sherlock Holmes calabash out!

The first cigarette of the day..., and the last one....and one after 

Drink has brought out the real me.  In vino veritas.  I've told people exactly what I think when my inhibitions have been suitably lowered.  I think it's making up for a lifetime of being treated like I'm some know-nothing, with nothing worthwhile to say.  Well... I can be extremely eloquent when I want to be!

Granted, though, I have my regrets with it.  Strangely, though - the older I get, the more attenuated my regrets become.  I think I regretted more that these things made me look foolish.  But I don't really care about that now.  And sometimes I think about the things I said, and I smile and think 'Yeah!  That needed saying, and someone needed to say it.  And I said it!'

Bloomin' eck BlueRay.......so much there I can identify with...

I'm an invisible presence also out there....my mum and sister have chosen not to associate with me for the last three years.....my OH's refrain...."what's wrong with you now!"....

keep my mouth shut....maybe that is why the smoking and drinking came about...things to stick in my mouth to keep me quiet!! - lol

ArrrrrrrrrrgH!

lol

x

me to,roll ups, used to be old holdbourne but now golden Virginia,all yellow, 

you could roll me one when I am driving ha ha, 

I was very young when I first smoked, everyone wanted to, all parents did, you could smoke anywhere, I love a fry up in a greasy joes with a *** on the go in the ashtray beside my plate,nice mug of strong tea to drink,,,,,oh bliss,xxx()()()xxx

I don’t drink as I fear it will bring the real me out, nothing bad about that,,,,,just that if I come outside I may never want to climb back into the box I have used as my hideaway.

I deny myself a true life, unlike you blue ray who I know will do whatever it takes to have a life you want and deserve, I think you will be happy, I also think you may be inundated with offers from those who want a freedom, 

I have smoked various things in my life long ago, and found it to be a strange but wonderful experience, I have no urge to do it again but if the smell alone can create euphoria in my mind, not this modern evil smelling stuff, the genetically modified brain cell destroyer, the old natural soft alternative to alcohol Lol.yeah man,,,,,,coooool,xxx()()()xxx

I smoke first as a coping mechanism when I was 18......I was living in a hostel for the homeless at the time..... ...and it still is rollups!

such as classy Elephant!

Hi tom,you are invited and welcome, So four of us so far,four corners taken Lol. I like to think the corners would only be a start point until we start to relax and be our true selves, looks like for once I will be host! 

Looking forward To ciggie time, a chance to actually smoke without fear of dropping ash or actually daring to breath smoke towards another being, I smoked first when if you didn’t you were considered weird!

x()x

This sounds like the start of a joke! - how many ASPIEs can you fit into a shed!

How many ASPIES in a shed do you need for people to start to think that we are being sociable!

This sounds like a thing, aspiesheds, they all have the same lock n key but only aspies get a key and whenever we need a change of environment, we just go to each other’s sheds! Sounds like we’ll always have a place to smoke and keep warm! 

Yeah, as a fellow smoker, I would also love to share some smoke time in that fine looking shed you have there. :-) 

Sounds perfect :-) 

Sounds perfect :-) 

definitely, because when I used to share, just about 100% of the room knew what I was saying and could identify and visa versa. 

Absolutely!  I've always argued that.  You only have to hear what people say.  It all makes sense.

yeah, definitely rings a bell. I was in AA for 7 years and a couple of my friends (one definitely on the spectrum) said AA is riddled with undiagnosed autistics. 

I understand you Lonewarrior, in fact, I just did some journaling and wrote that I’m scared to make ‘progress’ in case I end up with another lonely soulless life, but then I remind myself, that I don’t have to lower my expectations, I just have to adapt to the changing scenery. My life is just not going to look like I thought it would but if I can serve our community and in doing so make this world a better place, then I think  I can be happy, if I design my life right. 

My mum has settled for what you are talking about and in all honestly, I look at her sometimes (not literally) and realise that in many ways her life is much easier than mine and as a consequence she is more at peace than me. And she is loved very much and even if she can’t feel that love, like an nt maybe would, it seems to be enough for her and I truly respect and admire her for that. 

My diagnosis is all new to me and it is my suppprt worker who has made me realise that I need to come to terms with it and accept it. I thought I had, but I hadn’t, not really. But since she mentioned it, I am beginning to come to terms with it. 

When I think about acceptance, I feel sad, but I’ve realised, the sadness is for the life I thought I had. Which wasn’t a life at all. I was simply doing my best to survive in a world I felt I didn’t belong. 

I think all of our lives would look different, if we managed to get all of our needs met and find happiness. And I’m slowly starting to look at, what my ideal life would look like now, as an aspie. It’s early days but I truly believe we can create lives for ourselves that work for us. 

I wont give up on myself and that means I won’t give up on any of us. I’m going to keep working away at this and even if the changes don’t appear in my lifetime, I will do what I can to make it easier for those who come later. 

Oh, and the natural soft alternative would be a blessing. Then we could really have a party :-) 

In what context?  That's my argument entirely!

came across this the other day.....x...rang a bell!

Drink has brought out the real me.  In vino veritas.  I've told people exactly what I think when my inhibitions have been suitably lowered.  I think it's making up for a lifetime of being treated like I'm some know-nothing, with nothing worthwhile to say.  Well... I can be extremely eloquent when I want to be!

Granted, though, I have my regrets with it.  Strangely, though - the older I get, the more attenuated my regrets become.  I think I regretted more that these things made me look foolish.  But I don't really care about that now.  And sometimes I think about the things I said, and I smile and think 'Yeah!  That needed saying, and someone needed to say it.  And I said it!'

I don’t drink as I fear it will bring the real me out, nothing bad about that,,,,,just that if I come outside I may never want to climb back into the box I have used as my hideaway.

I deny myself a true life, unlike you blue ray who I know will do whatever it takes to have a life you want and deserve, I think you will be happy, I also think you may be inundated with offers from those who want a freedom, 

I have smoked various things in my life long ago, and found it to be a strange but wonderful experience, I have no urge to do it again but if the smell alone can create euphoria in my mind, not this modern evil smelling stuff, the genetically modified brain cell destroyer, the old natural soft alternative to alcohol Lol.yeah man,,,,,,coooool,xxx()()()xxx

This sounds like a thing, aspiesheds, they all have the same lock n key but only aspies get a key and whenever we need a change of environment, we just go to each other’s sheds! Sounds like we’ll always have a place to smoke and keep warm!