Published on 12, July, 2020
To akidoniki again...Just re-reading other things which you write... this is definitely "Harrasment" in law, and I would like to read any advice that NAS might give you. Keep very precise records, and ask your children to do the same if they can.
To akidonicki (If I spelt that right),A couple points:
I myself actually have the EXACT same problem. Very very often. I also can't do anything about it. (Coincidentally, As I write this, it is happening. Again.) There are things which you may try to do about it, which I cannot in my own situation. For instance, I can't move away from where I live due to lack of money.
Build a solid gate/fence, to block it out, or pay someone else to do this; for there are *few* restrictions upon how high anyone is allowed to build a gate or a fence.
Keep a diary about it, as precise as you can - what, when, where, who, how long, effects, and such. This is for the LAW, to present a case if you can. In law, this is called "Light Pollution", and the business is similar to "Noise Pollution", and is treated with as much respect by the law... which I cannot comment upon... (Some other things which you state may count as "Stalking"'.)
I have taken many photographs much like yours, and so I know what you mean there. Stand in place, and take one photo with the "flash" ON, and then another with the flash off... and if you can, try to take some in daylight when the light is still on, or get any close-ups showing the exact light fixture (to show that it is pointed at your property)... something like that... which relates to this last suggestion...
Buy yourself a bright light and do the same to them...?? (Make certain that it shines upon no-one else at all.) Find out how *they* themselves next deal with it - in LAW - ...and then state your own case. Whatever you do, please tell us what happens - but also please do not do anything in haste (bad), if you know what I mean.
no, no safeguarding at all. You are right.
You really wouldn't have thought it was legal for him to film you or record you and your family- I would have liked to think this is an illegal breach of your privacy, not to mention a safeguarding concern if he is filming young and vulnerable kids and that the police would see his behaviour as illegal too...but...obviously not?
I think I would try to move, out of whole area, for a fresh start; I think I would rather sleep on the sofa every night, in a tiny house, and let the kids bunk up and share rooms if needs be, rather than have to live with what you and your family are going through.
Better to be cramped and happy than have an adequate sized house and be persecuted?
not only does her work for the council himself, he is using this 'power' against us. For example sound recording equipment for 10 days to record the family. Very intimidating.
he works for the council and been using this 'expertise' against us. filming my children and I, provoking, to obtain 'evidence'. Like I said a pretty intense experience.
He allowed work personnel into our garden without permission. I contacted the police about these people in our garden without permission. They did not need to be on our property either. Police would not attend, despite me informing them of how vulnerable a family we were and the intimidation in our garden by these men and the neighbour. I think the police service, completely unaware and ignorant regarding autism.
I agree, we do not feel safe. money is an issue regarding moving at the moment. It took 2 years to find a house big enough for the family at the price paid. it is very disconcerting watching him talk to the neighbours and then the fall back from that. I think that they see a disabled bay and an escorted school bus and it makes them 'angry' at the 'services' and 'cost' to society. Yet it is not a council home and purchased. I have worked in education for 18 years but left my job recently due to this. Police repeatedly at house due to made up allegations. I have become a scapegoat for anything 'unusual' happening around here. For example a racist allegation made at the park, police came with paperwork for me to sign for re racial harassment, due to me "fitting the description". I had to prove my 'innocence'.
It has been pretty intense to be honest.
Words needed that cannot be expressed on a public forum.......but they might be more “special” (sic) than the people ON the bus
Honestly, what sort of people beep at a special needs bus?
So, the lights are, in some ways, the least of your problems there. I am really sorry- people (I should say some people) really are ignorant pigs and there sadly seems to be no cure for this.
Feeling safe at home is important, its largely all we have in this world- I think, if I was you, I would seriously think about moving. I know its not fair on you to move but, if it means you may find peace, kindness and understanding elsewhere, then it must be worth considering?
yes I told them. they have have also blocked the disabled bay. one of my children attends a SILC and he receives an escorted bus service. neighbours have sounded their horns at this bus, which has other autistic children on the bus. left bins at the side of our gate, made police aware but they have no autism awareness and how this affects my family. My son will not walk by bins. Thus bins left for weeks on end at our gate rather than neighbours own. This neighbour wanted (we found out later) his cousin to buy the house, we did instead and I feel since then he has been trying to drive my family out., spreading malicious lies and other neighbours are now saying I am a "nutter" etc due to my autistic presentation (ie detachment and disengaging).
Have you contacted your local council to see if they have a 'liaison person' who deals with neighbour disputes?
So, these lights are in the ground on the boundary path between your house and his and they are directed up at your bedroom windows?
Is it possible to put in a fence on your side which might cover them up from your view?
I don't think nets would work... I am thinking of thick black out roller blinds, if you put them up on the inside recess of your bedroom windows they might surely black out all light from outside, regardless of what angle it is coming in at?
Its really hard because, even if he is in the wrong, (and its not fair what he is doing) you don't really want to antagonise your neighbours; however, if you can find your own solution (like a fence perhaps) without it involving him it would mean he has no power over you; as this is what these sorts of things tend to really be about...power struggles?
How does your neighbour know about your family being autistic. Did you tell them?
they are on the boundary and angled towards our bedroom windows. i have put up black nets to mitigate the light pollution. the spacing between the terrace houses only metre's away. it shines through the blinds due to the angles (boundary only a few metres away).
Hi Aikidonicki,
I couldn't make much out from the picture...are those lights directly underneath your neighbours house and his windows or are they directly up against your wall and underneath your windows?
Sometimes local councils have a neighbourhood liaison officer who may be able to help mediate with neighbour disputes. Your local council also may be able to offer you further advice on what may constitute light or noise pollution?
Failing that, it may be possible that your neighbour is trying to intentionally disturb or offend you- in which case I would buy blackout blinds and blackout curtains and not let him win!
Best of luck.
could any offer us advice, as its been shining into bedrooms until 2 in the morning and affecting us severely? the lights purposely angled towards our bedrooms.