What are your experiences with dating and do you find it difficult to maintain a relationship? I find communication hard sometimes and can come across cold.
I think it's fair to say i struggle with all aspects of dating and relationships! Looking back at my previous experiences it makes a lot more sense now i know more about Asperger's. I've not dated anyone since i self-diagnosed and i haven't really thought about doing so due to all the bad experiences i've had.
But Evan makes an interesting point there about when to mention it. It's a tricky one. Ideally i think i would mention it straight away because i tend to make a poor first impression, but then maybe that would make the other person uncomfortable. I don't know.
I also think that I make poor first impression.
I am extremely anxious when meeting the person.
I think I could only be with someone who understands autistic people and would be happy to be with an autistic person.
Of course, we haven't yet tackled the subject of ND-ND relationships. ;-)
Does anyone have experience of actually dating another autistic? I just don't know how the dynamics of a ND-ND relationship would work... as in, would we be better suited to someone who was on our wavelength, or do we need NT's to help us adjust to life in a predominantly NT world?
I think I would like to be with an autistic person.
Preferably, someone very similar to me.
Then we could understand each other. We both would be free to be normal. Not to pretend to be someone else. And enjoy peace together.
Another good point...i've never dated an autistic person. I don't think i've actually met that many. My sister said to me the other week that i should try a relationship with someone on the Spectrum, but i don't know whether it would be as simple as she thinks. I assume it would be great to find someone on my wavelength but as you say, i'm not sure whether it would be that practical. I don't know if we'd just magnify each other's worst traits. But then i do think my previous relationships have gone wrong because of me being too 'Aspie'. Maybe it doesn't matter either way and you just need to find an understanding person!