I have recently been thinking about my social interaction with people and other than the people I work with, I only have my partner for social interaction.
Up to a point I am fine with this and still seek being on my own away from my partner, which he understands and is happy to accommodate. However, I have been wondering if this is a completely healthy way of going about life. I'm not lonely and if anything find I will do anything to find isolation following work, as I am normally feel overwhelmed at the end of a shift.
What I am debating in my head is whether I am in a bit of a rut and have accepted this isolation and therefore it doesn't affect me? At the moment, I am happy being with just my partner and looking after my animals. My partner has been a little concerned in the past, but I think like me has accepted that this is the way I am and shouldn't force social interactions on me. I hear from others though that social interaction makes us happy and stops us feeling isolated and depressed. If I didn't have my partner and animals, then I may be able to relate to this better.
I find friendships hard work and difficult to keep. One side of me said I will be putting unnecessary stress on myself by trying to find new friends (especially with similar interests to me!), the other side of me is thinking about the fact that I have become to reliant on my partner and animals for social stimulus and should instead step outside of my comfort zone.
Has anyone else had this debate and come to some sort of logical conclusion of what is best or has experienced the outcome for themselves? Fr
Whilst we are working I don’t think we realise just how much effort it takes to do everything required from sleep the night before,preparation ,travel ,interaction including emails ,keeping up with directives and change and whatever the job entails being conscientious and hard working... people without autism etc get tired throughout the working week., even if we enjoy our job and the stimulation and interest of the work involved.. it takes up huge amounts of energy. It’s not easy either to find ways and put them into practice to ease off the burnout. Are you due any time off soon? Maybe you could have a long weekend ( which won’t be enough but might help) could you do flexitime? I hope you don’t have a job which you need to take home with you.
i have given up on partners or friends as i reckon, if it's never happened yet and i'm nearly fifty, it's not going to. Animals do nothing for me. I too am in a bit of a rut!
Yes life gets the better of us all and I am finding I am burnt out a lot lately.
I had a week off work a couple of weeks a go and felt better for it, but I feel back to square one after a week back at work. I am going to keep my options open on how I can improve this though as I don't intend to go through life burnt out forever.
Luckily, I have a few more days to take off, so I may book a few long weekends and try to relax.
We have also started to adopt some of your advice as well about sharing activities, even if just for a short while. Manage to squeeze one spontaneous pub visit in so far, so that's an improvement if nothing else.
I like to think it's never too late for things to happen. I think part of the problem is assessing how you have become stuck in that rut and how you would like to change it. I have now started to analyse how I have slipped into my comfort zone and how I can emerge without causing too much stress to myself.
Part of my problem is I am not sure what level of socialising I am ready for. I think starting new friendships will be a bit too much at the moment. I am looking at one of my old special interests which I have let slipped which is writing music as it used to mean going to music venues and open mic nights. Socialising and meeting new people all tied into my interest then, so I might look at this as a way if tackling my rut.
Good. I hope the ideas help even if just to find out what is and isn’t manageable for you which will change depending on how you feel at the time. I hope not to be burnt out indefinitely either but things keep happening so that I’m not moving forward as I would like.