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my daughter cant cope in mainstream school

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Hi all,

I am new to this forum so hello.

My daughter is 5 and has complex needs she is autistic,dyspraxic,with a learning difficulty and speech and language problems ,she has been to 3 schools since she was for as the schools wouldnt except anything was wrong and she was being badly bullied and neglected also upset,bed wetting,aggressive.She is currently in a school where they have agreed to statementing and working with us which was another fight,she has been there since december and is in a class of 30 with a 1to1 who dosnt understand special needs at all.

My problem is whilst waiting for the statement she is not coping and is getting worse,she is extremley hypersensitive and hates crowds,noises,children crying,screaming,lights,no structure,smells,assemblys eating lunch in the dinner hall and finds the whole day frightening,she withdraws into herself and dosnt eat ,talking very little and is in a constant state of panic and anxiety.When she gets home she is aggresive,hyper and very stressed,she never wants to go to school and wets the be at night .I hate her having to go to this school as it is not right for her at all,I have found her  a brilliant school but she needs the statement to get in.Do I really have to put her through this stress I am so worried what this is going to do to her .

sorry long winded,please any help I would be very grateful. 

  • Hello,

    do you know if the SEN code of practice regulations about special schools applies to units attached to mainstream schools as well?  I want to get my daughter into an ASC unit which is attached to a mainstream school, they say she needs not only a diagnosis (she is being assessed) but she must have a statement too.  I've just started the statement process but I am waiting to hear whether they will agree to let the application go through.

  • Hi i am new to this website,just been reading your post,my 12 year old son is in a mainstream school and is finding it very hard to cope,it has been going on since the 1st day he started 18months ago,i have been to no end of meetings and the school is hopeless.he also has aspers and is currently suffering with stress & anxiety.he refuses to go to school,says he has no friends,he's not get dinners as he prefers to shut himself away :(.children annoy him on a day to day basis and all staff can say is "he's making it up".my arguement is "he wouldnt make it up!".they put him in the re-engagement team at his school for a week n a half,as soon as they said he would have to go to his english lesson,he wont go to school again.he just keeps saying she wants to get rid of me thats why.i am not going to make him go back,thinking about home tutoring him,but really don't know where to start,will i be able to get help and someone home tutor him? hope someone can help,many thanks

  • Hi All,

    I'm completly new to this site and internet chat rooms in general, but becoming increasingly desparate regarding my 8 year old son's education & was hoping there may be other parents out there who have over come similar problems. My son has ADHD & Asperger's, currently in  mainstream with 1-1 help. We have just received the final statement which has stated his current school as  placement and basically lists everything that is curently in place as actions. There is nothing new. He is now completley reliant on his 1-1 (cannot even go to the loo on his own), and still cannot read or write as he is so stressed because of the classroom noise. On top of this he is targeting his younger brother at playtime causing him to be unhappy at school. I could go on, however, my main point is i am appealling against the placement in a bid to get a place in a local Independent school speacialising in Aspergers. It appears to me to be the only school locally which meets all his needs. I am in touch with my local Parent Partnership, but if any of you guys have any personal experience of something similar, please share!

    Apologies for long winded rant!!

  • Hi Bigmumma

    Sorry to hear this is going on. In answer to your question yes there is something that you can do to stop putting her through this stress, EOTAS Education other than at School. It does not mean you have to home educate or de register her from the school, but as she is not coping then she is entitled to support from the lea in the form of home tutoring provided by them. I means that she remains registered at the school but can not attend. A tutor goes to school picks up the work she would be doing there and does it at your home. Another thing how far along are you with getting a statement? Has the school put in a request to the LEA? The SEN Code of practice states that it can not take any longer than 6 months from start to finish if the lea agrees to assess a child for the statement and one is to be given. Another thing the SEN Code states is that a child does not need a statement to attend a special school, but LEA's are reluctant to do this without one. At the end of the day unfortunately it is all down to budgets and as usual SEN kids are the ones that end up suffering. Good Luck

  • Hello bigmumma

    Sorry to hear about your worries. I just wanted to chip in and suggest the Education Rights Service:

    http://www.autism.org.uk/Our-services/Advice-and-information-services/Education-rights-service.aspx

    They will be able to talk to you about what procedures have to be followed, timescales, and also give you some advice about what your daughter might be entitled to educationally.

    Good luck, and please let us know how you get on.

    Sandra - mod

  • yes all the time, but they wont do anymore to help as she dosnt go to assemblys or eat in the dinner hall, the school dont know what else to do as she would benefit by being out of the class most of the day on her own or with a small group but the school havnt got the staff or capability to do that.

  • Have you raised your concerns with her school?