So I finally face my demons, HELP!

Hi there,

I am a father of an 8 year old autistic child whom my wife deals with fantastically but well if I'm honest I increasingly struggle to manage with this child's behaviour and what seem continual meltdowns and his simply unreasonable understanding and communication when going through these episodes, we have two thee children who cope really well considering the level of attention that our autistic son demands from both of us.

I work extremely long and stressful hours and occupy a very high level managerial role within the construction industry, I fear that what is going on at home is affecting my work in numerous ways, stressing about my son, lack of sleep after late night meltdowns and early starts as well as the strains it is applying to my marriage.

I am not writting this in the hope that pity or sorrow are shown but in an effort to reach other fathers who find themselves in this position or can offer some guidance, I am increasingly self aware that I need to make the effort to understand my son and his situation and would like some guidance on how it may be possible to get!

hope the above is clear and I have not bored you all!

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  • Hello all,

    Please take some time and see Deano Bambino's perspective here. Parents are not perfect and are on a journey. Deano Bambino is trying to learn better ways of communicating which is why he is requesting help on here. No-one is perfect.

    recombinantsocks, stateofindependence and Majorie195 - We certainly appreciate you sharing your experiences but please refrain from using language that implies judgement. Instead try and offer support and practical steps. For more clarity see our community rules and commenting tips.

    Also please refrain from gender stereotyping. Both fathers and mothers have the capability to become more responsive and emotionally understanding to their children.

    Deano - Thank you for sharing your experiences. We understand this can't have been easy. It can be difficult managing stress and work life / balance as you describe. We'd urge you to find out more information about parenting and children with autism. Please be patient. The impact of meltdowns can be minimised with a greater understanding of the triggers and better forward planning. You can find out more about our parenting resources here.

    We hope you'll continue to keep sharing with us.

    Take care,

    Avi
    Moderator 

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  • Hello all,

    Please take some time and see Deano Bambino's perspective here. Parents are not perfect and are on a journey. Deano Bambino is trying to learn better ways of communicating which is why he is requesting help on here. No-one is perfect.

    recombinantsocks, stateofindependence and Majorie195 - We certainly appreciate you sharing your experiences but please refrain from using language that implies judgement. Instead try and offer support and practical steps. For more clarity see our community rules and commenting tips.

    Also please refrain from gender stereotyping. Both fathers and mothers have the capability to become more responsive and emotionally understanding to their children.

    Deano - Thank you for sharing your experiences. We understand this can't have been easy. It can be difficult managing stress and work life / balance as you describe. We'd urge you to find out more information about parenting and children with autism. Please be patient. The impact of meltdowns can be minimised with a greater understanding of the triggers and better forward planning. You can find out more about our parenting resources here.

    We hope you'll continue to keep sharing with us.

    Take care,

    Avi
    Moderator 

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