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When One Transition Feels Like a Thousand

Loz

I’m reaching out to other ND parents / carers because I’m processing a lot right now.

Since my child (they are AuDHD) started high school, I’ve noticed a significant regression in their coping and confidence. They’ve always struggled with transitions, so part of me expected this, but seeing it play out feels different. I’m now wondering if this is “normal” (whatever that means!) or if I just hadn’t fully noticed until the demands changed? 

Something else I’m curious about - has anyone else experienced their own ND flaring up when their child starts struggling? My ADHD feels louder than ever lately. I’m juggling school communication, routines, emotional support, and honestly, it’s like both our brains are overwhelmed. 

If you’ve been through a similar stage, did things improve once support was in place? Did you notice a turning point, or anything that helped soften the transition?

Thank you in advance,

Loz Cat 

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  • I don't have advice just yet, but wanted to just offer support as next year my son transitions to high school and I have been dreading it. He's finally due his assessment next week, and I'm hoping it will help as I think his high school have enhanced transitions for those that qualify. For him it really affacts his school work, so he'll stuggle going from his current small rural school with a teacher that's had him for 6 of his 7 years there and learnt to accomodate his needs, to a high school with multiple teachers a day. I hope you get some advice as I could do with it too!

    My daughter just transitioned up from the p1-3 class to the p4-7 class and I had suspected she might also be ND, but it has had a huge effect on her too and now has requent meltdowns and lapses into only being able to write and not speak.  Speaking to her teacher now is hopefully going to have some positives for her, but it's not the same comparred to a high school transition. I think she will struggle with that one too.

    And yeah, trying to deal with one child having frequent shutdowns and the other daily meltdowns, it's been extremely hard for me this term. I think I'm in burnout, but homelife stress is not something you can avoid. Monday was a bank holiday here (Scotland) and I had a meltdown myself as I let the noise get on top of me. I need to learn to go to a dark room if I can, as weekends/holidays seem to be getting worse for me (plus the extra stress of christmas). 

  • in reply to Cinnabar_wing

    Hi  ! 

    Thank you so much for your reply, it is nice to feel less alone navigating this. 

    I hope your sons assessment next week goes well and I would try to access as much as you can once you receive his diagnosis - from my experience, it can take a while. My daughter was slightly similar, he was from a small school with familiar faces however, they did change teacher each year but sometimes they could have the same one again. It does sound like your children's school is supportive, so that is helpful! 

    I think I have been in burnout for a while too. I feel like I am a piece of string on its last thread constantly. I do hope you feel better soon. 

    Loz Cat 

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  • in reply to Cinnabar_wing

    Hi  ! 

    Thank you so much for your reply, it is nice to feel less alone navigating this. 

    I hope your sons assessment next week goes well and I would try to access as much as you can once you receive his diagnosis - from my experience, it can take a while. My daughter was slightly similar, he was from a small school with familiar faces however, they did change teacher each year but sometimes they could have the same one again. It does sound like your children's school is supportive, so that is helpful! 

    I think I have been in burnout for a while too. I feel like I am a piece of string on its last thread constantly. I do hope you feel better soon. 

    Loz Cat 

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