going into year ..7.. with learning difficulties

Hi TEA

I have posted below the education rights advice line link.

http://www.autism.org.uk/en-GB/Our-services/Advice-and-information-services/Education-rights-service.aspx

Please give them a ring.  They are very experienced in matters such as yours and will be able to provide you with advice and support

Good luck 

ColinCat

Hi tea,

Thats is so totaly unfair not to mention i think illegal! It smacks of being discrimination, your child needs to go to that school but cant get there alone when another child could so if transport is the only issue your child is being discriminated against as it sounds like she was accepted to the school. I would have to add at this point that I live in scotland so the rules here may be slightly different.

Please get advice from someone official as im just a mum on a rant! im so angry for you, be prepared to fight for the school you need as it is so important that children are in the right placement.

I have had to fight my needs with the LEA on occasion and have met with my local MP and threatened with the press, To be honest with you, I dont know that I would of carried through with that one, but they didnt know that! . The old saying about the squeeky door gets more attention is so true when it comes to schools. If they think you wont make a fuss they will walk over you.

If the school she goes to doesnt give your daughter the helps she needs then Keep a diary of the support she recieves and more importantly what she doesnt recieve, things that go wrong at the school and times when you feel she has been excluded from activities etc. Take it with you to review meetings etc as proof that the school is failing your daughter and it might help you get her moved school.

Hopefully this wont be necessary, sometimes help arrives and support and understanding are where we least expect it, your daughter could do very well in the school and you might find a dedicated member of staff there could be your lifeline.

Best of luck

Sam

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hI SamF We are smack in the middle of two schools one is our catchment the other not..... we chose the one thats not ,the LEA to us stating that if we thought our child needed transport to school we would have to pull her out of chosen school and send her to catchment school this is so wrong but these are the things that sre going on out there ..... nice to meet you sam x

Just wanted to send my best wishes to you and your daughter, i think oatie is right in the advice she is giving you. The only thing i can think of to add is dont worry to much about not having a car. Once it is agreed that your daughter should go to a specific school to recieve the support she needs the LEA has to provide transport for her.

I hope things work out for you and your daughter and you get the help she needs.

sam

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Oh dear..is anyone giving you any extra help with this? Has your daughter got breathing problems related to anxiety or an under lying respiratory disorder?

If it is like a 'panic attack' type problem could you get her a referral to try for some CBT?

Good luck I hope thing calm down a bit for you all

Oatie

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My daughter's anxiety starting to get worse ,time is getting closer to starting year 7.breathing problems are getting worse ,she keeps thinking she's going to stop breathing .I try to keep her mind off it but its not easy tends to get worse at bed time when she's not doing anything

I really do understand, and when you get tense your health problems get worse etc etc...it's the same for me with my brain disorder..I have been in bed during school hours most days for the last 2 weeks just trying to get my pain under control.

People tell you to relax ..but it's like saying 'don't think of an elephant'...best you can do now is try and speak to the people on here or the helpline for advice and enjoy the holidays as much as you can.

FOrmulate a plan and get yourself as rested as possible ready for next term. It's the plan I am working on...laughs..I will let you know if it works!

Big hug

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the whole system is messed up. when are they going to realise that our kids are just as important as the next one !!!. the point is there constantly surounded by kids acheiveing wich is totally soul destroying as my child is not getting that same oppertunity .I know i'm getting tence now because she has finished primary school ,i'm waiting for new school to ring me .thank you OAT CAKES for your support.xxx M

Oh crikey! I can imagine how darn frustrated you must be feeling! Just had a difficult time myself at the school this morning. They have left things a bit late in the day for you to be able to do much about it at the change over time.

I don't know what to suggest other than go and speak to the SENCO asap and if you can try and arrange a meeting with the SENCO's from both schools.I am sure the others on here have much more experience than me in this and you may want to hear what they have to say. My goodness aren't they stating the obvious here! Stating it but not acting on it...grrrr.

If it's any consolation I just had a similar experience. After all my soul searching and visiting the school with my concerns all this year..I have been asked yet again..to just sit tight and wait and see. I am sure DS teacher has grasped what I am saying but the Head now wants to see if my son will be OK over the Summer Hols..then he can see if it all flares up again when my son returns to school. 

Of course he will be better over the holidays and when he gets to his new class and finally realises he has a different teacher..boy are we going to see his anxiety go through the roof. 

I do understand how you feel, when you have practically banged their door down waving your 'listen there's something wrong flag' all year and now are left with the fall out from the lack of suitable measures being put in place for your child. 

I wish I had a magic wand for you and my family..but I also hope others will have some good suggestions on what to do next..ring the helpline too they are excellent.

((((HUGS))))))

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 My daughter came home with her school report today,she asked me to read it to her ,she got upset when i read, she doesn't connect with her peers ...................and her peers do not connect with her ......................Reading the end of her english part of the report her teacher said she needs specialist support ..................OMG i have ask them so many times about extra support ,and they watched me look at specialist schools ......................There answer was no you concentrate on being mum i feel panic as this is confirming my doubts on our school were sending her too ............................. i don't know what to do no body will help me ...............................