I long suspected it's their realisation they were bad parents and kids are not coming back, even to visit them, even less likely to care for them when they get old
Many thanks. I've needed a couple of rants here today already and, of course, some of it has spilled over on this forum. A cry and a sleep should do it. Plus we can stretch to a takeaway later on.
State pension age is still a few years off for me but workwise my setup is better than it's ever been (self employed). It is the role of parent/carer that leaves me feeling eroded, especially against a more general cultural background in which flying the nest is an assumption.
Plus some of this has been triggered by us sorting out our wills - in as much as this can be done without knowing what our own future care needs might be and what our adult offspring will need in the coming years - and accidentally coming a cross an article about parental disappointment and family conflict at young adults returning or remaining in the parental home due to the economic crisis. I'm feeling that, well, within our family flying the nest is impossible irrespective of the economic background so what are they whinging about!
Poor, poor "norms" and their two-way plight around adult offspring returning or their "depression" over "empty nest syndrome" when they do actually leave!
Thank you. I'm listening. And I'm just struggling to cope with managing all of our needs under one roof and within our budget. With no help from services, of course, because our experiences have repeatedly shown that their "help" is unhelpful, if not damaging.
Hi there. It is simply the chronic nature of all of our problems taking its toll over time. I'm tired and emotional and probably need a good sleep.
Our cannabis prescription is still helping but, even at that, I have occasional breakthroughs of very negative emotions, especially during annual "milestones" (for which read "millstones" in our case) such as birthdays, anniversaries and Christmas. Unfortunately we are now entering a two month period where a lot of these cluster together. And this isn't helped when I can see others in my family buying then renovating their own homes, getting jobs and relationships and generally getting on with their lives. And yes, the conventional ways aren't necessarily our ways, but there's been a long dearth of anything positive happening around here, whether in the orthodox ways or not.
In a way, I can cope with specific things happening - i.e. one off negative events - much more easily than a daily grind which doesn't let up. Maybe I'll just have a cry then a sleep and re-emerge feeling as though I've had a good vent and be good to continue.
