My son (4.5yrs) started primary school last week and today his dad has collected him to be told that he has spat in a teacher’s face and bit a girl. He’s never bitten anyone in anger before or spit, though he does frequently blow raspberries in people’s faces and not seem to grasp that it’s not funny/know to stop.
The teacher didn’t offer anything by way of next steps/thoughts, it was merely relayed to him, but it’s left us upset and concerned obviously. We’re very used to nursery where you get a full debrief at the end of each night.
I have lots of questions but mainly, as we’re new to this having only got a diagnosis over the summer, is spitting a sign of distress in a child with autism? Is not knowing when to stop doing something an autistic behaviour? And how do we address it? We’re worried that we’ve been treating behaviours as “Naughty” and approaching it wrongly, when he can’t help this.
It’s all very new to us and we’re struggling knowing how best to support our little boy. We’re also probably overthinking it all and worrying he’s going to not be able to stay at his mainstream school, though I know that’s unlikely at this stage.
Apologies for all the questions and if this isn’t the usual format of forum posts. Any advice on where to start would be gratefully received. Thank you.
