Distressed behavior

UPDATE: Today was one of her worst days I think, she had to be held but she got too aggressive they had no choice but to let go. I got a phone call saying that she has broken a bin, ripped everything off display boards, ripped things off the wall, she also attacked several members of staff with a stick. Many things happened but these were the worst. What can I do. Do I punish her or what. She cant be doing this but then I understand why it happened. Her day just didn't go to plan.

They also now have a uniform, which they have done, but a new one after changing the name of the school. She has left it in school because she will not wear it. She also looked very pale this morning according to a teacher. She also looked sad. No surprise there. She also hasn't been eating properly. Hasn't had a meal since Saturday. Unless I force feed her, what can I do. She is tired, hungry, hot. What can I do. She just won't help herself. 

ParentingAutism said:

We have things in place but they have seemed to stop working.

I think it could be easier for those able to help if we had specifics. 

For instance, “we’ve got halogens in her bedroom, but there’s fluorescents at the school, so she has light sensitivity glasses but she’s still experiencing frustration with light”. Then someone might be able to ask when the last exams was and suggest other things to look into. 

These extremes though can be from built up unresolved issues which a qualified therapist could help work through or from something misfiring in the brain or from an assault on the senses or from having to deal with a frustratingly irritating social issues day in and out. Society at its best can be highly unethical. NTs are passive aggressive, can be thoughtless, impulsive, demanding, disrespectful and easily offended. And that’s the good ones. There are library shelves full of the analysis. It’s enough to madden any highly intelligent Autist.

It does sound like you need someone to call round to yours. A qualified autistic therapist who can detail assess what she is responding to. 

I spoke to the school a bit more yesterday and they said she seemed very sad and stressed. She has been stressed more than usual ever since the weekend and now I realise that she isn't eating our sleeping properly. She hasn't had a proper meal in days and she won't eat when she is stressed. She has been awake since 3am this morning so I'm up keeping an eye on her hoping she'll sleep. So now she's stressed, tired, hungry, thirsty and she's a hormonal teenager so I don't know whether to send her to school later on especially if there's a high chance on her having a bad day. 

I spoke to the school a bit more yesterday and they said she seemed very sad and stressed. She has been stressed more than usual ever since the weekend and now I realise that she isn't eating our sleeping properly. She hasn't had a proper meal in days and she won't eat when she is stressed. She has been awake since 3am this morning so I'm up keeping an eye on her hoping she'll sleep. So now she's stressed, tired, hungry, thirsty and she's a hormonal teenager so I don't know whether to send her to school later on especially if there's a high chance on her having a bad day. 

Thank you. I will definitely try that. 

The only way to assess if her reaction is biological (lack of nutrients/hormone balancing) is to get a female teen multi and possibly a hormone balancing herbal cocktail and see if it changes over a week or so. My son had a noticeable difference within one week of finding the right balance with a micro-dose multi for men and ashwaganda. But this sort of thing requires a diligence and structured routine. Some don’t require food. 

bit as a mother I wouldn’t rely on someone else to sort a therapist or hire someone to help my son better communicate. No one will care for any of us the way we can care for our selves.