Published on 12, July, 2020
My daughter is 12 and had SPD sensory processing difficulties!! And we have just started the autism assessment. she’s at high school year 8 we have lots of concerns but one main one at the moment is underwear I can not get her to wear underwear, this is very upsetting as she has started her period as well and won’t wear knickers has anyone come across this situation and what things have you tried to help overcome this problem
karen x
I’m going keep trying and buy some nice soft cotton ones thank you
Oh thank you will try and order these fingers crossed
Is she frustrated by feeling constricted or by the fabric either not fitting properly or what it's made from?
One suggestion is to buy a little more better quality & just 8 pairs of the same if they work either from mostly cotton or marino wool. Here are a few links I might suggest
Living Crafts is amazing for organic fabrics that fit well. You might want to size up to Womens at this point. Also CUT can be really important. the "Boy shorts" cut is nice as they don't go up to the waist. Massive knickers, which roll all the way to the waist, can feel like one is being taken over by far too much fabric. And then if they bunch up a bit it's all one can focus on.
If you haven't tried something like these, one of each might work. She might be able to eventually wear them in a year if not now, so it won't be a waste at least having them.
Natural cotton https://www.cambridgebaby.co.uk/catalog/women/womens-pants-bras/womens-shorts-in-organic-cotton?zenid=somvf9eiq5l2re62e2d6l5v8u0
Wool (for women and children) uk.dilling.com/.../
I mean all I can suggest then is offering cotton underwear with the labels cut out
Do you think she may try boys boxer shorts? You can get ones that are a bit baggier? Is it maybe the restrictiveness of pants/leggings she dislikes?
Offered her to use these and she refused to try any alternatives she folds up her pads and somehow holds them in place but I’m scared that it will fall out at school !
Thanks for replying she won’t even wear leggings or tights just skirts I really don’t know what to do I’ve tried all different styles of knickers shorts seamless spent a fortune!!!!
Have you tried offering her tampons or menstral cups as an alternative to pads?
Could you try the pants you get that cover the full bum cheek almost like a short? Or maybe see if you could source leggings that have pants attached or you could try an alterations shop and ask the to sew pants into leggings or tights? That’s an awful situation for you. Hope you find a solution.