Dangerous behavior

when i was a kid i was never allowed outside the house unless i first asked my parents. and the doors where always locked. they was classical old fashioned parents, bit controlling and smothering to the point it probably hindered my ability to get friends as i was never allowed out, but hey ho i didnt get abducted by child grooming gangs which are all too common now.

Caelus said:

i didnt get abducted by child grooming gangs which are all too common now.

Seriously NOT helpful. Here's what CAN happen when you're not considering the impact your words will have: 

A NT mother like this will feel 100% justified in suffocating and inprisioning her ND daughter. As a result, the relationship will b worse as force strained further as caging someone agaisnt their will only creates resentment EVEN if the person doing it thinks they are doing it for the others "own good". 

NeuroTypicals BY DEFINITION use a form of Reasoning which invovles ASSOCIATION. It is Incredibly Faulty and only feeds their out-of-control "control and domination Issues", it is an undiciplined De-Fault, and irrational which Autistics have to fight and fight and fight against.  

That De-Fault, death by association looks like this: if you're friends with someone unfit, YOU are also assumed unfit. Or if there is a random stabbing at a local shop, they associate that shop with stabbings until the owner is forced to close it and go broke. 

Think smarter, mate. Don't just insert your opinion when it can be detrimetnal to others. 

I agree with you here. They need to watch there mouth. My children witnessed the friend's attempted kidnap a few years ago and they will never forget about it. They have nightmares because it could've been them. And there were kids out playing in a close and it was outside everyone's house. I fear this will happen to my kids, it can happen to anyone even with parents next to them. It all happens very quickly. I know someone who was raped, in the town where my daughter goes to school, so when she's out wandering, that's why I get worried. 

i lowered the age on purpose to drill he point home as a example.... tbh i was thinking of using 5 years old as a example instead but i think 5 years old is probably too young for any sane person to let out... i could be wrong though. but yeah i generally use example based wording.... hell when i wanna say a high number, i dont say the precise number, like 675 i instead say 10000000000000000000000000 and over-exagurate. people never get these things which is weird as to me they are a basic level of communication and comprehension and yet neither NTs or ASDs understand it or even understand examples lol

anyways i consider my sister daft too for letting her son out to the local park unattended, he sometimes goes with this younger daughter of my sisters boyfreinds sister who im not sure what her age is but im pretty sure its gotta be around the 10 age unless im just bad at guessing ages, but defo too young to be allowed to go out alone with her kid to the park, especially as other kids are dicks and my sisters kid is the type to be a target for older bully kids and isnt exactly good enough to defend himself. plus there have been asians in vans snatching kids from round where she lives too and yet she still lets him out unattended.

To start off with, what you were commenting was not helpful. How many of my posts have you read because the more you read them, the better understanding you would have. 

Caelus said:

but hey ho i didnt get abducted by child grooming gangs which are all too common now.

That's great news Caelus, I'm so proud! Yes, it's all very common now, to the point where an attempted kidnap happened in our close, where we lived, full of children, happened, right in front of both my daughter's, and many other's eyes. It was scary because that could've been my daughter but now she is scarred for life and I've explained earlier, that she has nightmares about it, she remembers the exact date and now has a complete fear of men and it effected her a lot. Home was meant to be her safe place but ever since that day, one sudden noise spooks her, especially when she is home alone, which she hated anyway but now refuses completely. 

Caelus said:

if that kid goes out and gets hurt, thats not the kids fault, thats the parents fault due to being the parents charge. legally speaking... i think this is why alot of parents get done for neglect or get social services knocking at their door for how they are not ensuring their charge is safe.

Yes that's true and if I nearly got her taken away and put into care because she was struggling mentally and she had no coping methods because she didn't understand anything and why she was acting the way she was. 1 thing would mess her day up, like not having the right spoon, bowl, or cereal in the morning and that was it, she would explode and leave the house and they said I was neglecting her because I couldn't keep her safe because she would leave the house and hurt herself because she was in a very tricky dark place. It was horrible for everyone. That's why I try to keep the doors locked but then it's a prison and now she will jump the fence so I now keep the doors unlocked. I've explained this so many times in my posts but because I guess you haven't read any because you can't get her age right, I thought I'd keep you up to date with what I have to deal with. 

In shorter words, if I lock her in, it's a prison and she will want to escape and will jump our fence, gate, whatever. And although I'm trying to keep her safe, she can't have a social life because she's locked in, which she does have btw,  That's why I now keep the front door unlocked. It's all very confusing so read my other threads before you comment something like you did. Thanks 

To start off with, what you were commenting was not helpful. How many of my posts have you read because the more you read them, the better understanding you would have. 

Caelus said:

but hey ho i didnt get abducted by child grooming gangs which are all too common now.

That's great news Caelus, I'm so proud! Yes, it's all very common now, to the point where an attempted kidnap happened in our close, where we lived, full of children, happened, right in front of both my daughter's, and many other's eyes. It was scary because that could've been my daughter but now she is scarred for life and I've explained earlier, that she has nightmares about it, she remembers the exact date and now has a complete fear of men and it effected her a lot. Home was meant to be her safe place but ever since that day, one sudden noise spooks her, especially when she is home alone, which she hated anyway but now refuses completely. 

Caelus said:

if that kid goes out and gets hurt, thats not the kids fault, thats the parents fault due to being the parents charge. legally speaking... i think this is why alot of parents get done for neglect or get social services knocking at their door for how they are not ensuring their charge is safe.

Yes that's true and if I nearly got her taken away and put into care because she was struggling mentally and she had no coping methods because she didn't understand anything and why she was acting the way she was. 1 thing would mess her day up, like not having the right spoon, bowl, or cereal in the morning and that was it, she would explode and leave the house and they said I was neglecting her because I couldn't keep her safe because she would leave the house and hurt herself because she was in a very tricky dark place. It was horrible for everyone. That's why I try to keep the doors locked but then it's a prison and now she will jump the fence so I now keep the doors unlocked. I've explained this so many times in my posts but because I guess you haven't read any because you can't get her age right, I thought I'd keep you up to date with what I have to deal with. 

In shorter words, if I lock her in, it's a prison and she will want to escape and will jump our fence, gate, whatever. And although I'm trying to keep her safe, she can't have a social life because she's locked in, which she does have btw,  That's why I now keep the front door unlocked. It's all very confusing so read my other threads before you comment something like you did. Thanks 

i lowered the age on purpose to drill he point home as a example.... tbh i was thinking of using 5 years old as a example instead but i think 5 years old is probably too young for any sane person to let out... i could be wrong though. but yeah i generally use example based wording.... hell when i wanna say a high number, i dont say the precise number, like 675 i instead say 10000000000000000000000000 and over-exagurate. people never get these things which is weird as to me they are a basic level of communication and comprehension and yet neither NTs or ASDs understand it or even understand examples lol

anyways i consider my sister daft too for letting her son out to the local park unattended, he sometimes goes with this younger daughter of my sisters boyfreinds sister who im not sure what her age is but im pretty sure its gotta be around the 10 age unless im just bad at guessing ages, but defo too young to be allowed to go out alone with her kid to the park, especially as other kids are dicks and my sisters kid is the type to be a target for older bully kids and isnt exactly good enough to defend himself. plus there have been asians in vans snatching kids from round where she lives too and yet she still lets him out unattended.