Dangerous behavior

when i was a kid i was never allowed outside the house unless i first asked my parents. and the doors where always locked. they was classical old fashioned parents, bit controlling and smothering to the point it probably hindered my ability to get friends as i was never allowed out, but hey ho i didnt get abducted by child grooming gangs which are all too common now.

Caelus said:

i didnt get abducted by child grooming gangs which are all too common now.

Seriously NOT helpful. Here's what CAN happen when you're not considering the impact your words will have: 

A NT mother like this will feel 100% justified in suffocating and inprisioning her ND daughter. As a result, the relationship will b worse as force strained further as caging someone agaisnt their will only creates resentment EVEN if the person doing it thinks they are doing it for the others "own good". 

NeuroTypicals BY DEFINITION use a form of Reasoning which invovles ASSOCIATION. It is Incredibly Faulty and only feeds their out-of-control "control and domination Issues", it is an undiciplined De-Fault, and irrational which Autistics have to fight and fight and fight against.  

That De-Fault, death by association looks like this: if you're friends with someone unfit, YOU are also assumed unfit. Or if there is a random stabbing at a local shop, they associate that shop with stabbings until the owner is forced to close it and go broke. 

Think smarter, mate. Don't just insert your opinion when it can be detrimetnal to others. 

hmm so would you let, say, a 13 year old daughter go alone outside unsupervised to the park a few streets away? lotta predators around... hell it isnt even safe for a single grown man to go out these days but yeah no one cares when your adult as your in control of your own destiny, but a kid is someones charge, if that kid goes out and gets hurt, thats not the kids fault, thats the parents fault due to being the parents charge. legally speaking... i think this is why alot of parents get done for neglect or get social services knocking at their door for how they are not ensuring their charge is safe.

all in all it is a risk, and theres pros and cons to both sides. yes its smothering to protect your kid, and they wont get friends due to you holding them back and not letting them out and that will effect them negatively. but also yes if you let them out unsupervised they will face dangers and you will be liable for it being their guardian that allowed them to be unsupervised and neglected outside alone.

Thank you!

Lastly - this looks quite good: https://www.amazon.co.uk/stores/page/3162D547-A2B8-4DA8-A6F5-2A7EECD097AE?ingress=3

It has a few good herbs and might be a good alternative to melatonin if that sound like something you'd like to try.

You may not need the melatonin eventually if she takes something like Ashwaganda which helps regulate the endocrine system. A quick search will bring up that there is nothing conflicting.

But definitely let her GP know what she's taking.

Ususally if suppliments conflict she'll get a new kind of headache. So, best to start low-dose. You could even see if upping her vitamins and promoting healthy hormone function will allow her to ease off the melatonin. Good luck! 

Thank you for this again. 

Thank you for this. I will definitely look into it and see if they have any in stock. At the moment she's taking rescue remedies, which seem to help, especially at night since she takes Melatonin in a liquid form. Definitely seen an improving in her sleeping. Thanks for all the advice on all the posts. We've certainly came a long way from last year but still improving and working things out so thanks. 

https://www.togetherhealth.co.uk has both Ashwaganda and a womens multi. They're buy 1 get 1 1/2 at H&B occasionally.

I'd try a few different ones over the next year or so. She seems aware in a way that she'll probably notice the difference in these. 

Oh you can get Ashwaganda from Boots or Holland and Barrett. Pukkas has a good blend, too - a little more expensive.

The most important thing I've discovered is to start with a 1/4 or 1/2 dose 3-4 days a week. 

For a mulit Vitamin, look for one designed for young women. Some can be a little more expensive. But again, I'd take half or 1/3 the recommended dose to start.

That's great news! I might try that. Can you get it from the local Pharmacy? 

I take a half dose of a multi daily and it has made a massive difference since my 20s. My son does as well now and it's changed his depression substantially. Could be worth while. My son takes a micro-dose of aswaganda which also is helpful for anxiety. We've tried everything with him. but between that and rigorous exersize it seems to have worked magic.

To start off with, we believed her behavior was due to a hormonal imbalance but she had blood tests and all was fine. All her behavior started at the start of secondary school and ever since then, we've got professional in and she's been diagnosed and now the majority of the behavior makes sense from when she was younger. 

Earlier, she had 2 meltdowns, one at home and one swimming. Earlier, she got all wound up and overloaded, exploded and her breathing becomes rapid, shorter and quicker, so there is less oxygen reaching her brain and then all of a sudden she stopped, become still and took a few stumbles and fell onto the sofa, and came out of it a few seconds after. She explained to me that her vision went, her hearing went and she was dizzy. I explained this to her dad and he said it was a faint. She also suffers with Postural Hypotension and faints due to this, mainly when she gets up in the morning, due to getting up too quickly. But this time was just different because she wasn't standing up long and she wasn't breathing normally. So we don't believe it was due to getting up too quickly but it could be. Not sure but we will see the doctor.

Ok. New subject. Did she meltdown or is there something biological here. 

Many young women can suffer from hormone imbalance. I would arrange to see the GP. Fainting can be from heat exhaustion. It can also be from an imbalance easily remedied with a multi and/or herbal suppliments. x

Thanks and I have been looking through all the other posts comments on everything I have posted but I'm coming to a dead end because she fainted this morning in a meltdown, she left us when we were swimming because her costume was irritating her and all the noise in the pool and the water splashing and everything and the heat and that was before we got in the pool. Luckily she went out, called her friend and kept leaving and entering the building giving us updates on what she's doing. 

You are so Way off Topic and way Out of Context on this one, mate. How many of this persons posts have you bothered to read? How many times has this 15 year old (not 13, Caelus) escaped her hostile surroundings? 

Stop doing more harm than good on this site.

You are so Way off Topic and way Out of Context on this one, mate. How many of this persons posts have you bothered to read? How many times has this 15 year old (not 13, Caelus) escaped her hostile surroundings? 

Stop doing more harm than good on this site.

Thank you!

Lastly - this looks quite good: https://www.amazon.co.uk/stores/page/3162D547-A2B8-4DA8-A6F5-2A7EECD097AE?ingress=3

It has a few good herbs and might be a good alternative to melatonin if that sound like something you'd like to try.

You may not need the melatonin eventually if she takes something like Ashwaganda which helps regulate the endocrine system. A quick search will bring up that there is nothing conflicting.

But definitely let her GP know what she's taking.

Ususally if suppliments conflict she'll get a new kind of headache. So, best to start low-dose. You could even see if upping her vitamins and promoting healthy hormone function will allow her to ease off the melatonin. Good luck! 

Thank you for this again. 

Thank you for this. I will definitely look into it and see if they have any in stock. At the moment she's taking rescue remedies, which seem to help, especially at night since she takes Melatonin in a liquid form. Definitely seen an improving in her sleeping. Thanks for all the advice on all the posts. We've certainly came a long way from last year but still improving and working things out so thanks. 

https://www.togetherhealth.co.uk has both Ashwaganda and a womens multi. They're buy 1 get 1 1/2 at H&B occasionally.

I'd try a few different ones over the next year or so. She seems aware in a way that she'll probably notice the difference in these. 

Oh you can get Ashwaganda from Boots or Holland and Barrett. Pukkas has a good blend, too - a little more expensive.

The most important thing I've discovered is to start with a 1/4 or 1/2 dose 3-4 days a week. 

For a mulit Vitamin, look for one designed for young women. Some can be a little more expensive. But again, I'd take half or 1/3 the recommended dose to start.

That's great news! I might try that. Can you get it from the local Pharmacy? 

I take a half dose of a multi daily and it has made a massive difference since my 20s. My son does as well now and it's changed his depression substantially. Could be worth while. My son takes a micro-dose of aswaganda which also is helpful for anxiety. We've tried everything with him. but between that and rigorous exersize it seems to have worked magic.

To start off with, we believed her behavior was due to a hormonal imbalance but she had blood tests and all was fine. All her behavior started at the start of secondary school and ever since then, we've got professional in and she's been diagnosed and now the majority of the behavior makes sense from when she was younger. 

Earlier, she had 2 meltdowns, one at home and one swimming. Earlier, she got all wound up and overloaded, exploded and her breathing becomes rapid, shorter and quicker, so there is less oxygen reaching her brain and then all of a sudden she stopped, become still and took a few stumbles and fell onto the sofa, and came out of it a few seconds after. She explained to me that her vision went, her hearing went and she was dizzy. I explained this to her dad and he said it was a faint. She also suffers with Postural Hypotension and faints due to this, mainly when she gets up in the morning, due to getting up too quickly. But this time was just different because she wasn't standing up long and she wasn't breathing normally. So we don't believe it was due to getting up too quickly but it could be. Not sure but we will see the doctor.

Ok. New subject. Did she meltdown or is there something biological here. 

Many young women can suffer from hormone imbalance. I would arrange to see the GP. Fainting can be from heat exhaustion. It can also be from an imbalance easily remedied with a multi and/or herbal suppliments. x

Thanks and I have been looking through all the other posts comments on everything I have posted but I'm coming to a dead end because she fainted this morning in a meltdown, she left us when we were swimming because her costume was irritating her and all the noise in the pool and the water splashing and everything and the heat and that was before we got in the pool. Luckily she went out, called her friend and kept leaving and entering the building giving us updates on what she's doing.