Not eating

Hi again, my daughter isn't eating much at all. She says she's not hungry, which I believe to some extent, but she's barely eating. 

It started when she was low, depressed and her mental health took a dip and she was hospitalised for weeks. She wasn't eating anything but a little pack of maltesers every few days. She never used to eat much but it was more than now. She has refused dinner tonight, which was pizza. She only had a bacon roll at break and for lunch: crisps, banana and a chocolate bar which is fine but that's it. That is all she is eating a day. If I cook her a dinner, she will barely touch it and doesn't want desert, which she usually wants. She'll eat the veg on her plate and that's about it, great it's veg. She is a cyclist so she needs the energy for it. School says that she has been starting to eat putty/slime she has and been putting things in her mouth. She's done this a few times in the past but only really chewing a ruler. I've bought chew toys but she's chewed through them and destroyed them.

She is getting head aches and a couple weeks ago she was the same and felling light-headed, dizzy and a little faint... 

What can I do for her to eat a little more? I've looked on the internet and at the advice and guidance but I can't find anything that will help. Has anyone else been in this situation? 

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  • Hiya

    The need for control runs deep - and it looks like she'll try any trick to continually punish you for something by keeping you worrying.      The problem is young girls can often drive themselves into an eating disorder.    

    There is an entire teenage girl culture and many, many websites where they share information about how few calories they can get away with and they egg each other on.       I'm not saying she's active on those sites - but be aware.

    It is for you to judge whether you seek professional intervention if she's totally out of control exhibiting risky behaviour and is now, technically, self-harming.

    Why not go to your gp and explain what is going on for you and that you need help.

  • I hadn't thought of control as a motive, Plastic,  - it absolutely wasn't for me, there was just no hunger and everything smelt or felt bad.  But yes, it's worth considering if there are other controlling behaviours.

  • Yes, she is becoming controlling but this issue has gone on longer than a year now, before the controlling started in school. Plastic, with school, I have spoke to her and told her I've had enough and that she needs to go to school site immediately and stay onsite otherwise they'll be some serious consequences... 

  • Has anyone worked with her to help her understand her autism? 

    Her senco is working with her and teaching her about it.The school is very helpful and support me well.  For example, today she refused to get out the car and go into school, so the head teacher, senco and another teacher came up with a plan and got her into school 15/20 minutes later. 

    We have managed to get to the bottom of this behaviour because it's a phase they've seen before. It's when something new, becomes older and boring which causes her to become flat and disengaged, then she starts seeking the intense reaction it gave to her at the start. She is seeking adrenaline by doing things she's not meant to and by jumping gates and leaving site. Now that's boring so she's refusing to come to school. 

    What will happen tomorrow with her? She's in school all day. I fear that she will climb up onto the school roof like other pupils are doing. 

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  • Has anyone worked with her to help her understand her autism? 

    Her senco is working with her and teaching her about it.The school is very helpful and support me well.  For example, today she refused to get out the car and go into school, so the head teacher, senco and another teacher came up with a plan and got her into school 15/20 minutes later. 

    We have managed to get to the bottom of this behaviour because it's a phase they've seen before. It's when something new, becomes older and boring which causes her to become flat and disengaged, then she starts seeking the intense reaction it gave to her at the start. She is seeking adrenaline by doing things she's not meant to and by jumping gates and leaving site. Now that's boring so she's refusing to come to school. 

    What will happen tomorrow with her? She's in school all day. I fear that she will climb up onto the school roof like other pupils are doing. 

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