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Coping with sensory issues in the real world

Abitlost

Hi there. This is my first time posting. My son is J is 8 years old with a diagnosis of ASD, i guess he is probably high functioning. He has a lot of social interaction issues and difficulties making friends that are becoming more obvious as he gets older. One issue (although there are many) that I have no idea how to deal with are his sensory issues. For example - He has a complete intolerance for his little brother singing and whistling. His little brother likes to sing/whistle quite a lot and it absolutely drives J over the edge, he cannot cope with it - it causes a melt down. My question is this though - How do we give him the skills to cope with things like this in the real world? - If someone starts whistling in school he can't behave like this, as he gets older if he has these melt downs in front of his peers he is likely to be picked on (although i hope not, but i know what boys are like) - so - what do you do?! All of his issues seem to be becoming more obvious as he is getting older...i want to give him the skills he needs to be able to cope but i don't know how

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  • Hi Abitlost

    The intolerance for the singing and whistling is more likely natural sibling rivalry - the noise is an excuse to antagonise and the instigate trouble - on both sides.    It's also a control issue - making everyone in the house OBEY every unreasonable demand - or else!

  • in reply to Plastic

    Yes! I do agree that the younger brother antagonises him, he knows it annoys him so sometimes overdoes it deliberately. Sometimes difficult to separate the asd behaviours from just misbehaving I agree

  • in reply to Abitlost

    There's also the 'being male' bit - as we get older we *need* to burn off the aggression and energy - I lived in the country so I climbed trees all day.    You can see the behaviours if you watch chimps growing up and the younger males start to challenge the pecking order.

    What does he do to burn off his energy?    It might be worth finding some activity that knackers him completely - he won't have the inclination to fight then.  Smiley

    what would he find enjoyable?   What about a punch-bag in the garage?   Judo?    Even boxing - He might get hurt - but he'll learn the art of being a man and controlling himself from the others.    Is his dad able to spend that time with him?     A 'right of passage' type of serious challenge.

  • in reply to Abitlost

    My son discovered a love for Judo after trying out Karate for a few years. He hated group sport. He is also into games but knows he needs to work out every day (24 now). There does exist solo sport and work out gaming - could be good to look into if it gets him moving. Once the body is used to a healthy thing, it can crave it. My son also had dyslexia but I discovered he really wanted to play adventure games which required reading, so I let him play as it really helped his ability to read.

    It might be worth looking into the poor balance/co-ordination and find out if it's possibly related to stress and external stimulation. Video games take quite a bit of co-ordination.

    I personally need to do and finish one thing at a time or I'm a liability, this requires focus and over-sensory stimulation can really throw me off balance. Many individuals cannot focus on the task at hand if they cannot even get to a state where they can present/relaxed/in the task itself. Just a thought! 

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  • in reply to Abitlost

    My son discovered a love for Judo after trying out Karate for a few years. He hated group sport. He is also into games but knows he needs to work out every day (24 now). There does exist solo sport and work out gaming - could be good to look into if it gets him moving. Once the body is used to a healthy thing, it can crave it. My son also had dyslexia but I discovered he really wanted to play adventure games which required reading, so I let him play as it really helped his ability to read.

    It might be worth looking into the poor balance/co-ordination and find out if it's possibly related to stress and external stimulation. Video games take quite a bit of co-ordination.

    I personally need to do and finish one thing at a time or I'm a liability, this requires focus and over-sensory stimulation can really throw me off balance. Many individuals cannot focus on the task at hand if they cannot even get to a state where they can present/relaxed/in the task itself. Just a thought! 

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