Coping with sensory issues in the real world

Hi Abitlost

The intolerance for the singing and whistling is more likely natural sibling rivalry - the noise is an excuse to antagonise and the instigate trouble - on both sides.    It's also a control issue - making everyone in the house OBEY every unreasonable demand - or else!

Yes! I do agree that the younger brother antagonises him, he knows it annoys him so sometimes overdoes it deliberately. Sometimes difficult to separate the asd behaviours from just misbehaving I agree

There's also the 'being male' bit - as we get older we *need* to burn off the aggression and energy - I lived in the country so I climbed trees all day.    You can see the behaviours if you watch chimps growing up and the younger males start to challenge the pecking order.

What does he do to burn off his energy?    It might be worth finding some activity that knackers him completely - he won't have the inclination to fight then.  

what would he find enjoyable?   What about a punch-bag in the garage?   Judo?    Even boxing - He might get hurt - but he'll learn the art of being a man and controlling himself from the others.    Is his dad able to spend that time with him?     A 'right of passage' type of serious challenge.

My son discovered a love for Judo after trying out Karate for a few years. He hated group sport. He is also into games but knows he needs to work out every day (24 now). There does exist solo sport and work out gaming - could be good to look into if it gets him moving. Once the body is used to a healthy thing, it can crave it. My son also had dyslexia but I discovered he really wanted to play adventure games which required reading, so I let him play as it really helped his ability to read.

It might be worth looking into the poor balance/co-ordination and find out if it's possibly related to stress and external stimulation. Video games take quite a bit of co-ordination.

I personally need to do and finish one thing at a time or I'm a liability, this requires focus and over-sensory stimulation can really throw me off balance. Many individuals cannot focus on the task at hand if they cannot even get to a state where they can present/relaxed/in the task itself. Just a thought! 

You have to think for the future - you can probably manage him now when he gets upset - how will you mange a big, strong 20-year old?

Well that is another big issue that we have - he has no interest in any physical activities and is very sedentary. He does like solitary activities like swimming and cycling - but they're not exactly something that will tire him out. We tried him at all sorts of group sports but nothing worked out. He has no motivation to do anything - we take him to the park, sometimes he plays, sometimes he doesn't.  We go for walks and he complains. All he enjoys is online gaming, which he is obsessed with.  His little brother is into everything and very active. Another thing - I think he has dyspraxia, never been diagnosed though (very clumsy, poor coordination, poor balance- don't know if there is any point pushing for it.

Well that is another big issue that we have - he has no interest in any physical activities and is very sedentary. He does like solitary activities like swimming and cycling - but they're not exactly something that will tire him out. We tried him at all sorts of group sports but nothing worked out. He has no motivation to do anything - we take him to the park, sometimes he plays, sometimes he doesn't.  We go for walks and he complains. All he enjoys is online gaming, which he is obsessed with.  His little brother is into everything and very active. Another thing - I think he has dyspraxia, never been diagnosed though (very clumsy, poor coordination, poor balance- don't know if there is any point pushing for it.

My son discovered a love for Judo after trying out Karate for a few years. He hated group sport. He is also into games but knows he needs to work out every day (24 now). There does exist solo sport and work out gaming - could be good to look into if it gets him moving. Once the body is used to a healthy thing, it can crave it. My son also had dyslexia but I discovered he really wanted to play adventure games which required reading, so I let him play as it really helped his ability to read.

It might be worth looking into the poor balance/co-ordination and find out if it's possibly related to stress and external stimulation. Video games take quite a bit of co-ordination.

I personally need to do and finish one thing at a time or I'm a liability, this requires focus and over-sensory stimulation can really throw me off balance. Many individuals cannot focus on the task at hand if they cannot even get to a state where they can present/relaxed/in the task itself. Just a thought! 

You have to think for the future - you can probably manage him now when he gets upset - how will you mange a big, strong 20-year old?