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Giving up work / help available

NAS70640

Hi, 

My 8 year old son has additional needs and has 1:2:1 help in school during the day. 
my partner works full time during the day and I work evenings part time. My partner is finding the evenings hard dealing with our son’s meltdown, hitting or not wanting to do the bedtime routine. We also have 2 other children, 1 older and 1 younger than our 8 year old. 

I am considering giving up my evening work to help at home, 2 parents being home on the nights I don’t work is very beneficial to all our children. 

I have recently applied for DLA and awaiting their response. I am also aware that I could apply for carers. 

has anyone else been in this situation? I’m worried about giving up work and being so much worse off but also know my son needs that 1:2:1 help in the evenings too. 

many thanks

  • in reply to aidie

    Yes I will do. Received a letter today to say they have received it and looking at all information that’s been sent so that’s good. 
    It’s hard as I know my son needs that extra support at home in the evenings that 1 parent cannot deal with alone but also it’s so hard giving up work esp in this time with all that’s going on. I could be making things better with our home and family life but worse financially. 
    thank you for taking the time to reply 

  •  wait until u get a response about your DLA. ---- u getting out to work could be your strength in the long run.  Its a really tough decision  as u get older its harder o get work again Disappointed

  • We're a slightly different situation but it was financially and timely for us to 'retire' my mother-in-law and pay her to look after our daughter - she was 5 years from retirement, not in spectacular health and her job was heavy, minimum wage and it cost her bus fares to get there and back in all weathers.

    She ended up significantly better off financially and got to spend lots of important time with her only grandchild while we both worked.    She officially retired when our daughter went to school full time - we were able to jiggle timings to do the school run.

    Our daughter (now 22) still has a very close relationship with grandma.