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Parenting / work balance / does it get harder ?

Mum on a mission :)

hello,

i wonder if any parents have changed role or taken a job that is easier / less stressful / less hours in order to support their child more? 

I am currently looking for a new role as need more stability financially and I would like to feel more fulfilled in my job.  However, I don’t know if I can face the extra responsibility and workload.  

More often than not before I take my lovely daughter to school I have been emotionally floored by a meltdown (I know she feels 100 times worse).   I feel I need all my energy to support her and manage the effect on her siblings. 

The more I read and research it feels easier to cope but some mornings I feel emotionally exhausted and don’t think I could cope with a more responsible role.  

Also I wonder as she gets older will it all just become more difficult, as she has exam stress etc will she need more support. 

Juat interested if other parents are in a similar situation x 

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  • Hi, 

    I have ASD myself and have 3 daughters, the youngest of which also has ASD. I do agency work, so I don't work that often, so I can still keep my hand in with work but can focus the majority of my time on looking after my children. If litlun wasn't ASD I might be inclined to put her into nursery a couple of extra days a week but I feel that would be unfair on her as she would struggle more than most with the separation from mum, she's a total mummy's girl! Once she's at school I'll be able to work a bit more. Do you have anyone else to help you with looking after your daughter?

  • in reply to Kitsune

    Have you looked into the possibility of a childminder? Home from home setting, more chance of a one to one with your daughter, plus somebody who can give you BOTH a good settling in period to ease with the transition & aid in getting little one school ready so it’s not such a big leap when the time comes? Childminders can offer the 15-30 funded hours aswell as accept the tax free voucher schemes through work. They’re Ofsted registered & work to the EYFS- which is the same curriculum they work to in schools & nurseries for the 0-5 age group.

    If you get tax credits, you could be entitled to quite a substantial portion of your childcare paid for, dependent upon your situation.

  • in reply to loubylou83

    Thank you for your advice Slight smile My youngest already does two full days at Nursery, we get the 2 year old funding due to her disabilities. She gets funding from the LEA for a 1:1 at Nursery too. I want to be at home with her as much as possible, to give her the best start in life and because I understand her needs more than anyone else, partly because I’m her mum but also because we are both Autistic. I find her very easy to tune into so I know what she needs and why she needs it and she is still so very little, I wouldn’t want her to be away from me any more until she is school age.

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  • in reply to loubylou83

    Thank you for your advice Slight smile My youngest already does two full days at Nursery, we get the 2 year old funding due to her disabilities. She gets funding from the LEA for a 1:1 at Nursery too. I want to be at home with her as much as possible, to give her the best start in life and because I understand her needs more than anyone else, partly because I’m her mum but also because we are both Autistic. I find her very easy to tune into so I know what she needs and why she needs it and she is still so very little, I wouldn’t want her to be away from me any more until she is school age.

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